hi

I think I'm just using this to lurk. I'll lyk if that changes. Previously an admin account for Spoonie Living, might be some old replies kicking around. Tumblr's account/user permissions structure is a trash fire, don't @ me

[kirby-the-gorb]

[what-am-i-doing-in-this-fandom]

hey, I was just at "things got better" island and everyone there is talking about how excited they are to meet you

[switchblade-dragon]

Hey yeah so this post literally kept me alive for like 6 months. Thank you. And OP is so right. Everyone on this island became my best friends. And guess what? Now they can't wait to meet *you* and they talk about you every single day.

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

not my tweet but I thought it would be a good psa for artists here too

[wheedledee]

Don't trust Vacation Bible School

[wheedledee]

Hey can I stop being on the cutting edge of medical science please

[wheedledee]

'Tis Time for Murder, Lieutenant

Source image:

(Tis time for torture princess closing animation)

[c-rowlesdraws]

after all the choice jokes in Morph Club about how much Visser 3 loves tigers (he really, really loves tigers), I had to draw a comic about him finally getting some merch of his favorite Earth animal.

[scleroticstatue]

Yes, that is my circus, and, yes, those are my monkeys, but I am not on shift yet.

[the-beard-of-edward-teach]

[mossworm]

is this allowed

[wheedledee]

Joanna the Goanna coded

[wheedledee]

Me: I was at the dollar store so I got L's easter basket and fillings [the thing I always do where I handle the logistics of holidays without being asked because one partner is unable to solo it (but does have it on their radar and helps when they can, ty c!), without being asked, because I have more executive function, and I'm notifying you so you don't have a panic attack the night before Easter, if you even think about it]

W: right on

Just a little thank you... That would be fine.... Please recognize how much I do for this fucking family..........

[unrooms]

Welcome to the Unrooms! For the month of March, I’ve decided to do this sort of experimental little interactive story. Tbh I have no idea how this is going to go but there’s only one way to find out, right?

Here’s how it works: Each part of the story will be posted at or before midnight EST (when we hit daylight savings time it’ll switch to EDT. I know, confusing :P). Then, I’ll open asks for 24 hours until midnight again. When asks are open, you can send in suggestions for what the main character should do next! When asks close, I’ll put up a one-day poll with all the suggestions. Whichever one gets the most votes will definitely happen, but runner-ups might happen too if they’re not contradictory. Then I get a day to write the next update, and the cycle repeats. Assuming everything goes to plan, the final part should go up on the 31st. The first one will be tonight.

I think that’s all! Wish me luck besting my ADHD this month haha

And thanks for reading :)

[unrooms]

Welcome back to the Unrooms! Haha I didn't know how to start this. But, as it happens, March has rolled back around and I am back for Unrooms... season 2? Season feels like a weird word for it, but the same principle applies!

It will work mostly the same this time, except that I'm removing the poll day. So, it'll be a 2-day cycle instead of 3, meaning there'll be more updates, but they'll probably be at least a little shorter, since I have limited energy.

Without polls, which suggestions happen will be based on how much people express support for them. You can give a simple +1 in the comments of someone's idea to agree with it, or a -1 if you don't like it, or you can add more detail if you want- though I suspect more people would be likely to see your amendment if you send it in an ask, but that's up to you.

Once again, the first part will come out tonight. I hope you enjoy!! And thank you again for reading <3

[unrooms]

Once again, welcome to the Unrooms!

This year I'm changing things up a little as usual. There isn't a strict update schedule; instead I'll get them out whenever I can (without pushing myself too much, of course). There'll be at least 10 hours after each update to put in suggestions and + or -1 others- maybe more time depending on my personal schedule- and then I'll announce that suggestions are closed and make the next update.

The first update will be out within the next few days. As always, I hope you enjoy, and thank you for reading! <3

(p.s: Also, it would mean a lot to me if you shared the Unrooms with a friend you think would like it :] )

[wheedledee]

He hates himself so much. When I read the stuff he's written to me it's like a gale force. We have been trying to help but he's just turning in on himself....

[wheedledee]

Ok hang on so

He did end up talking to me, but only because I guess me dropping the emotional labor of shielding him from his constant mistakes by giving him direct and neutral feedback was excruciating for him.

He's so fucking terrified of Doing Things Wrong and receiving my ire and I explained I only ever needed to know what the fuck was going on with him, as he was just doing, and 99% of my issues just disappeared. Your meds are making you insanely forgetful? Hell yeah I can work with that. It's scaring you? Dude I've been there! I just need information! I need to feel like we are a team!

He tapped out and hasn't continued the conversation the last couple days though 😩 I was really nice too? But I suggested we might do well with couples counseling as a buffer and I wonder if I gave him a scare

But also, and this took me a bit to clock, he mentioned an incident where I had asked him to put the clothes on the dryer if he didn't have time to sort them, versus throwing them in the hamper. Apparently he HAD tried to sort them and was so miserable to hear he had failed that badly that he is just going to not even try, and put them on the dryer from now on.

But hang on, sir????? You could have fucking said "oh I tried to sort them, did I screw up? Let's go over what you need." But instead he just said yeah ok and decided to throw in the towel and I only heard about it when he got so miserable he had to say something. (Like I guess he only did it for the time being because he figured he was doing harm but like. This is something we can work together on omg)

Sir...... do you realize that puts more work in my lap............

We already have a problem where he doesn't know how to do half the tasks I do, while I can do pretty much anything he can do.

We're already experiencing task creep where I'm taking over the shit he can't bring himself to do.

...and now we're just giving up on sorting the laundry because of an easily corrected misunderstanding/missing information????

Anyway I'm mad all over again >:(

What do you do when extreme anxiety leads to the exact patterns you would get with some toxic masculine asshole who refuses to be caught messing up or being vulnerable, leans on you for invisible/emotional labor, weaponizes incompetence, and gets all sad-sack about it when you bring it up........ but it's all anxiety........ when does it go from just anxiety to just That

[weirdplutoprince]

Well, well, well. If it isn't the consequences of someone else's actions that I am directly impacted and severely affected by

[wheedledee]

How many times must a man hear "stop feeding the cat before her medication time" before he stops feeding the cat before her medication time?

[wheedledee]

These people are so sure they know what our kid needs and that what she needs is bootstrapping. And they're just gonna implement it without discussion.

In fact this counselor has been slowly bootstrapping ME by withdrawing support and stonewalling me when I am trying to wave her over to help with the school entry transition.

We live in such a toxic society oh my god

[xalodaxa]

I made a serotonin generator

[drchucktingle]

keep trottin