#passing advice

[naga-noia]

looking conventionally attractive/conforming to beauty standards isn’t a prerequisite for passing btw. you do not need to feel bad about not looking like a super model however far along you are in your transition, because 99% of cis people don’t look like models either

[thelastlightningbug]

My passing advice/tips, now that I've been out as trans for nearly 4 years:

Signal that you plan on passing.

Look over your shoulder to check your blind spots.

Never drive off the paved or main-traveled part of the road to pass.

Never pass on the left if the driver ahead is signaling a left turn.

When turning left, do not assume that an oncoming vehicle with its right turn signal on is turning before it reaches you.

Hope these tips could be helpful! I've learned a lot in the past few years and wanted to share :)

[shamebats]

I usually don't share passing advice but I'll make an exception for this because it covers pretty much all the good advice that you can get and debunks the bad stuff too.

[tmasc-confessions]

I wish i could pass as anything becasue i hate being perceived as androgynous or just a girl. “But anon at least sometimes people don’t know”! Yeah and then they start overtly discussing whether i’m a man or a woman and that makes me dysphoric and inhuman when they scrutinise my features like it’s a game. I try to do everything to pass in the binary and it’s just infuriating. I’d love some tips if you have any.

Yeah I actually kinda get that. I prefer straight up being called a girl than having someone stare at me for thirty minutes before deciding on calling me they. And that’s with a pronoun pin on my bag mind you. 😭

Honestly my passing tips come more from behaviour than appearance. For example, the way men are socialised, they usually aren’t raised expecting to leave space for others. That’s why stuff like manspreading is called that way. Take up more space. Not in a disrespectful way, but don’t just shrink into a corner or stand straight against the wall. Take a wider stance when moving or standing. Hunch over a bit. They aren’t put under anywhere near the amount of scrutiny for their posture, so it’s rarer to see a man casually hanging out with his back straight and his shoulders rolled back. If tou have a “resting bitch face” (god I hate that), good, keep it. Everything you’ve been told isn’t ladylike? Do it.

Again, I have to emphasise, don’t be a dick. Just be comfortable. The best way I can put it is “crossing your legs at your ankles is clocky”.

[itslyranow]

Defeated The Hot Girl Summer Accusations

We got rain for like two whole days 😭 Hot girl summer is over I guess- lets try again next year. Happy Pride people!!! Remember pride is a protest- so make sure you are heard. In the UK we gotta fight to get our rights back- don't stop emailing your MPs and pushing for change.

So weird question if anyone reads this- other trans girls do you feel uncomfy wearing dresses/skirts. I love how I look in a dress but I think it invites more scrutiny of me and it makes me uncomfortable in public...

Like a few months ago I could only dress in dresses anything else felt too masc but now when I wear a dress I feel like I'm performing gender rather than living gender as no other girls I see really wear dresses or skirts day to day. It's just not common in the UK. Like I want to pass and maybe I've internalised some self image stuff due to wanting to emulate what I see in women around me.

The Ups and Downs

⬆ New Passport Obtained, provisional filed for, out to most of my clients

⬆ Was in the city all weekend, being in the city just feels better. Went to a lil queer board game café with a friend. Wish I was brave enough to talk to people.

⬆ Went bowling with my boys 💕 I got my ass kicked but had a great time

⬆ Met up with some friends I haven't seen in a while to get cocktails... It turns out I'm a lightweight now 🤯

⬆ Meeting with my MP and MSP on Friday- time to do some POLITICS. Going to go in with the perspective of educating them on trans issues and proving that the attitude against trans people is unfounded.

⬇ Dysphoria truck be truckin' this week, did not feel super fem all weekend and was quite self critical... Thank filters for existing

⬇ Not much weight loss progress this week, but I didn't eat/drink great so I just need to be better this week

⬇ Need to get my house back on track. t h e m e s s is returning, this usually is not a great sign. Just need to take some time to fix it.

Progress

Week 22 of Lyra, Week 17 of hormones

Weight: 19st 13lbs (1lbs off) Total weight loss for May! 10.5 lbs or 4.5kg Grand Total: 108.5lbs off or 7st 10.5lbs or 49KG or 28% of my starting weight 😁 BMI from 53 -> 37.8 Really low progress this month compared to all previous months.

[eegdop]

Ok I'm posting a lot today (tbh I forgot this account existed but I'm gonna use it a lot now that I remember.

I'm a trans man. u can probably guess this by the he/him pronouns in my bio and the trans flag on my pfp

As a trans man I personally enjoy not being misgendered in gas stations and whatnot. My voice (in my opinion) is the biggest fucking thing stopping this from happening. I've tried all the voice training shit but I have a condition that has fucked up my throat and I cannot physically change my voice like that.

So the question is, what the fuck do I do?? are there certain ways I can change how I talk that aren't related to pitch, volume, resonance, etc.?? Are there any massive other things I can do besides fucking painting a dick on my face that can help me pass??? please I'm dysphoric and desperate

also just fyi I already bind, I wear men's plain t-shirts (a mix of slightly loose fitting to baggy) or a hoodie, my hair is short although I'd be open to any recs on a more masc style (my hair is super fucking thick, mostly straight, and insanely volume-y), I'm 5'4", I wear glasses they're from the men's section of the store and they're kinda rounded square-ish semi-thick black rims (insurance won't cover a new pair until like January next year), also I can't do much walking-wise I had cancer and it fucked up the mobility in my leg so the way I currently walk is the only way I'm rlly able.

I think that covers everything, I'm open to any advice. if you need further clarification on anything just ask!

[trans-isnt-fun]

Which way of wearing my hair helps me pass the best? Or any advice in general?

[shamebats]