I may edit this when I wake up because it's harsher than I usually like to be on here but I think someone has to point it out. apologies for putting it in a few ship tags, I want this to reach the right audience.
some of the adults on this side of tumblr need to grow tf up and get better at setting boundaries. ik a lot of you are newly 18 or whatever but adult spaces require a high level of maturity and I think the lack of that has contributed to a lot of the issues we are facing and the criticism we receive.
adults, please be selective with who you choose to interact with. take a look at someone's blog before you interact. that should not be "too difficult" for anyone because it is a matter of the safety of children. in my experience it's usually fairly easy to flag someone as potentially lying about their age, especially if they don't have an age listed on their profile or if they interact with known underage blogs. if you feel that someone acts immature or childish, even if their profile states otherwise, it is best to avoid that person. don't contribute to someone's self-destructive tendencies even if they ask for it, especially if you don't know them very well.
also, and this should be obvious, don't become mutuals with or communicate with anyone confirmed underage via a nsfw blog. idc what you do on your main if it's sfw (though I'd still side-eye you personally if all your mutuals are minors), but interacting from a blog that deals heavily with adult content with a minor is dangerous and quite possibly illegal. there is literally no argument against this, that is grooming behavior.
as for any minors potentially reading this, because I know there will be at least a handful, I really do sympathize with the desire to be a part of these spaces. in fact, I even lied about my age to interact with adults at one point in my life. however, after admitting to what I did and seeing the profoundly negative effect it had on the people around me that I cared about, I got off of social media and sought out mental health treatment in real life. if you find yourself feeling a constant need to be immersed in adult spaces and engaging in conversations about extremely dark subjects, even fictionally, I really do urge you to try and work through the deeper issues you may have instead of relying on the internet to cope.
to those who may think this sounds hypocritical coming from someone who posts what I do, I understand how it can come off that way. I'm not the type of person to tell anyone that rpf dead dove content is the most squeaky clean thing morally speaking, but I would like to stress that there really are people in these spaces who do know how to separate fiction from reality and genuinely care about protecting children from engaging with content that is inappropriate for them. I wouldn't give a pack of cigarettes to a kid, and I wouldn't let them follow this blog either. with that being said, I love a good cig and I can handle the consequences of smoking for myself. if my adult friend wants to bum a cig, I know they can understand and deal with the risks as well, so I'm happy to share, but that is NOT the same as giving cigarettes to kids. hopefully the metaphor comes across there.
anyway tldr: we as a space need to do better at protecting children even if it is inconvenient. if you lack the maturity to set the necessary boundaries, then you should not be on this side of tumblr.