what exactly do you mean be "dead dove" content? isn't everything here kind of dead dove in some way? i'm really not trying to sound judgy, but the way it's framed kind of makes it sound like you're separating "bad kinks" from "acceptable kinks" which feels a lil icky to me. maybe instead we could just start off each anon with content warnings regarding kinks we are talking about?
Hi Anon, this is a fair concern. For the purposes of this confessional, "dead dove" content includes things that would be unethical in real life, as to cause harm to a person when done in real life. Examples include noncon, gore, incest, stalking, or underage.
Your qualm with "dead dove" as a label has been around for a while, and I understand it as a dead dove creator myself. My understanding of "dead dove" from the approximately fifteen years I have been in fandom spaces is that it pertains to topics which could be potentially triggering due to their dark and unethical (in real life) nature. In my experience, it is typically used as a catch-all term for that as a warning to prevent people from engaging with media which might trigger them.
I concede, however, that we are not within a fandom vacuum, and that anti-dead dove sentiment has been rising along with fascist censorship policies. Within this context, I can understand how the "dead dove" designation can feel like an othering label. As the Admin of this confessional, I do my best to balance between providing people a space to share their voice and also avoiding this censorship (as this site has a lot of it).
My specific purpose for asking people to start asks with "dead dove" content with the trigger warning is because having it at the top of the post might make it easier for folks to see it and scroll past if they are uncomfortable. It also alerts me as to what to expect when I open my inbox, for I am also but a person with triggers. Your idea of starting asks with warnings for kinks is fair, and I will add it to the rule masterpost.
I appreciate you coming to me in good faith to handle this. Have a lovely day and thanks for your confession! ❤️
