#personal frustration

[not-a-space-alien]

On today's episode of "taking everything literally makes your life significantly harder in more subtle and insidious ways than not understanding other people's jokes," I'm stressed out and struggling at my job because I try to do the things I am told I'm supposed to do whereas everyone else seems to magically know which rules are soft and don't have to be taken seriously

[transfenris-truther]

Trans men, transmascs, and nonbinary people: Sometimes our perspectives are unique, valuable, and necessary.

People who think they're being progressive: Actually, all trans perspectives are already adequately encompassed in the experiences of trans women. And all AFAB experiences are encompassed by cis women. We don't need or want perspectives from people who aren't exclusively women. This is not misgendering, erasing nonbinary people, or transphobic, somehow.

[avereunavita]

Posting here because I don’t feel like starting shit on Facebook…

This is such a deeply adolescent mentality and sentiment to have. While I can agree that I much prefer the humans I can engage in deep and thoughtful discussion with, small talk is how we get there. The person that shared this is so completely unwilling to engage in small talk that she will not talk to you unless you somehow guess the random deep topic that’s going to catch her fancy atm. And while I’ve had several “deep” conversations with her, I know nothing of who she actually is. You know someone truly through the kaleidoscope of things that can be discussed via a simple “what’s up?”. It is through small talk that we discover the little things like parts of their daily routines, favorite foods, comfort shows, if they dislike going shopping, what their dogs name is, and if they have siblings. If you find small talk so abhorrent that you think less of the people who engage in it and refuse to do so yourself your missing so many opportunities to turn “crazy weather we’re having huh?” into sharing stories of childhood rainstorms that helped shape who we are today. Way too many people have this view that small talk is some sort of nicety to endure rather than the intricate gateway to connection that it is.

[obeekris]

I have no idea why, but for some reason I cannot bring myself to ask my coworker a very simple question, either vocally or in the chat program the company uses. I've got no problem asking other questions. No problems just talking to her. But for some screwy reason, I just literally cannot find a way to ask her "Favorite Star Wars movie? And favorite character?" And it wouldn't even get a weird "WTF?" reaction from her, because she has SW stuff on her desk, and her computer wallpaper is R2D2 and BB8 picking apples. My brain just puts a screeching halt to it whenever I even contemplate it at work, and I don't know why.

[ultimateintrovertedasexual]

I'm feeling incredibly frustrated right now. I want to be openly out to everyone in my life, but I'm terrified that they'll think less of me or think I'm doing it for attention (as most of the people I am out to believe). I really wish asexuality wasn't such an invisible orientation and that more things represent it (and represent it right) in the mainstream.

[teddybearliamxx]

I've been in the one direction preference tag for nearly 30 minutes and guess what I find... Harry Harry Harry... Everyone is writing about Harry. Even Harry is in the Liam tag. It just makes me so frustrated. It's like everything about one direction is Harry and it's making me so fucking irritated. I wanna cry out of frustration cause Harry everywhere is just so fucking overwhelming. Someone tell me this isn't just me that's bothered by this. I wants some Liam and Niall and Louis. Please. Can someone guide me to some Liam blogs that write about Liam or Louis please.

[lunasong365]

I will fight you Duolingo

[not-a-space-alien]

We have a duty at work to maintain autoclaves (basically testing them to make sure they reach temperature) and all the labs rotate by month who has to do it. And the person who does it for the lab whose job it is this month--a lab that's like 3x as big as ours in terms of how many people they have--asked US to do it. Because apparently "she doesn't trust anyone else in the lab to do it." She's out for a week so we, a much smaller and more overworked lab, have to do it when it's not even our turn. It's ALREADY disproportionately split up because bigger and smaller labs all have the same duty, yet we're getting even more of it pushed onto us (This is part of a larger pattern of the same btw, wouldn't be a big deal on its own) instead of. Idk. Maybe training one of the ten million employees they have to actually do it correctly?? The ones who say they're going home early because they have nothing to do??? Seems like being in their lab is a pretty good deal, if you just do everything poorly and unreliably they'll just make someone else do it and give you less work. We also have to do basically all the equipment and room maintenance paperwork for every single shared space, even ones they use more often than us, because apparently we "don't trust them to do it correctly." Their lab is a fucking mess and somehow they always try to pull us in to pick up the slack despite us having fewer staff and less funding. Our labs are weirdly interconnected because their PI is the head of the department but....

Never let it slip in the workplace that you're competent, you will be stuck doing EVERYTHING. If you're in any sort of management position, please for the love of God make sure you're not incentivizing underperforming.