#asexual problems

[kyri45]

HAPPY IAD DAY EVERYONE!💜🤍🩶🖤

Since explaining my sexuality usually results in people asking all kinds of uncomfortable questions, I keep with me the definition card and let it do the job for me, and I tell them I wont explain any further, because personally, it’s not their businessI’m a proud Ace, but that doesn’t mean I have to openly tell people I just met about all the details about my sexuality. Asexual people can masturbate, have sex, watch porn, be sex repulsive, neutral or positive. That doesn’t mean we have to tell you extensively if we do or are any of these as soon we tell you we are Ace. Please respect us regardless of our place in the spectrum💜

✨You can find the cards inside my Pride Deck! ✨

[faux-stars]

Asexuals can never win because...

if you're attractive, you just "haven't found the right partner"

if you're unattractive, you're just "coping"

if you're hetero, you're a "closeted gay"

if you're homo/bi, you're just an "attention seeker"

if you're sex positive or sex neutral, you're a "liar"

if you're sex negative, you're a "prude"

if you speak out about acespec issues, you're "entitled"

if you don't speak out about acespec issues, you're "invisible"

if you're cis, you're "not queer enough"

if you date the opposite gender, you're "not queer enough"

if you're trans, your asexuality "doesn't matter"

if you date the same gender, your asexuality "doesn't matter"

if you're SA'd, it's "your fault"

if you're a sex worker, you're "deceitful"

if you write about asexuality, you're "boring"

if you write smut, you're "fake"

if you try to find community, you're "attention seeking"

if you keep to yourself, you're "narcissistic"

And those aren't even the real life issues that asexual people face on a daily basis. We can't even talk about our real life because simply trying to exist online and trying to build communities is downright near impossible all on its own.

I've been in the trenches for twelve years now, and I'm so tired.

[melovibes57]

The face i made when somebody said this 😒 (this is my tiktok btw). Guess they don’t know the definition of queer.

[proship-shuujuu]

sometimes asexuality will strike you at the weirdest of times. i am a very sex and kink positive person, so i sometimes tend to forget that i'm asexual, or, truthfully, that sex even exists in real life.

reading and writing smut? great, love it!

looking at nsfw art of The Characters? awesome, give me more!

watching bridgerton or heated rivalry or any other live-action show that features a lot of sex? i am so viscerally uncomfortable that i'm going to tear my eyes out and flush them down the toilet.

[moonprismpower456]

Actually making a serious post about aro/ace segregation because I’m tired. Recently in the aspec community I’ve seen a lot of people pushing the idea that sex/romance repulsed people are the only experiences aspecs can have and that favorables are somehow infecting or taking over our community. Being frustrated with hearing about those topics frankly isn’t favorables problems and saying they can just go to allos for a community is the same shit ace exclusionists have said about all of us for years. Thinking that asexual=not having sex and aromantic=not having relationships is a stereotype people in the community have been fighting for years. Splitting up a community isn’t the solution to our problems, getting rid of favorables won’t make the aphobia you experience go away. Asexuality and aromanticism are spectrums, go do like any research if you think otherwise.

[acespejs]

[repulsed-confessions]

Average asexual space experience; that's how half of the community sounds like, especially under a repulsed (sometimes averse) post. Since why should they mind their own business; No, they'll get offended over stuff they have nothing to do with.

*coughs* The main Ace subreddit

[theaceofarrows]