#personal rant'

[sweetwolfcupcake]

The 'Good ' Person

Again, with a personal rant.

We reside in a society that has elevated the expectations and standards to an impossible level, and so has the pressure come down upon each and every individual, in some way or the other.

Such is the pressure of being the 'good' person everyone should look up to. I guess this might also be partly a reason for the emergence of the Anti-Hero trope. Or the sudden outburst against the perfect hero. Even Aristotle discussed why everything is wrong with a 'Perfect Tragic' hero and why it would not work in his essay 'Poetics'.

But I guess we have not learnt much beyond the theatre regarding what is wrong with having a perfect hero. The thing is, the more we chase 'perfectionism', the more unaccepting we become of others' flaws. Human beings are made out of flaws and experiences. there would be no experience at all if there is no bumps in one's character.

This attitude of not being able to accept the imperfections of a person that people might have idealised earlier is what makes the infamous 'Cancel Culture' so toxic. I agree, that there have been instances when the Cancel Culture has served justice, in a way, but the fact is, this is a heavily toxic trend.

The fact is, Cancel Culture has arisen because people have become increasingly unable to accept their own flaws and imperfections, and in a way, they are the victims of society. However, they too, have become the ones to keep the cycle going.

It is very important for us to accept that the perception of a 'good person' is very much subjective. You can be an ideal person in someone's eyes and a complete antagonist to the other. The pressure of being the 'good person' has often, directly, or indirectly, promoted a people-pleasing behaviour. And if not all, most people already know how disastrous that can be.

It has become, thus, increasingly difficult to self-reflect and be honest within ourselves. But I believe that it is necessary, it is very much essential for us to be aware of ourselves and accept that we are not perfect, and so is not the person we are passing by. Every person has their own pace of growth, individual experience and aims, ways to self-reflect and level of self awareness and emotional maturity.

It is ironic how we all speak of the age of acceptance yet have so little to accept, we filter things to acceptance, and bend our judgement to our favour. In reality, this constant pressure of being the 'good person' has turned us all into hypocrites.

Again, this is a personal opinion and my perception of society. Everyone is free to agree to disagree, having individual opinions is our right, and I am not here to impose mine, but to share.

[biastodaesung]

How do you feel when something unwanted come across your mind and demand to b remember in a constant times changing in your struggling youth?

How are you going to react?  All those tired and painful and also bittersweet memories that u want to keep buried deep inside your heart popped up and keep haunting and not wanting you to move on and never look back to your wounded scars but they’re still there being a ghost cursing you. 

This exactly what is happening to me all this times. Somebody harassing your happiness and freedom and telling you to do what they wanted to do and forcing you to walk in their shoes as what the fuck is happening here keep playing in your mind but you cant defy them. You want to say no but you just can’t tell them on their face. You are coward. Coward is your middle name.

When it is too late, there’s no more tomorrow for you and sorrow will be with you for damn ever.