Too passive to care.
This'll be a cool story.
An Active Personality is one who has a clear idea of how they want the world to be and does not easily tolerate deviations from this ideal. When deviations occur, the active personality aggressively acts to remedy the situation.
A Passive Personality is one who is flexible in their concept of how the world should be. They adapt rapidly to changing circumstance and are not stressed when things do not go according to plan.
So these, are the 2 out of the 3 extremes of the personality spectrum.
One completely in control.
And one, who quite frankly, could not give 2 fucks.
I will give you the good and bad sides of being passive though, because some people make it seem quite terrible.
Bad: Passive people do not speak their mind. Are you kidding me? That is completely out of the question. We are people pleasers, people pleasers go with the flow. It doesn't always get you what you want, but at least everyone else can be happy.
Passive people never get their "needs" met. I mean if we don't speak our mind, then how do you expect us to voice what we want. This relates to being a people pleaser, but also because we don't want to get our feelings hurt. I mean, everyone knows what it's like to have their idea/want rejected. Passive people just avoid that shit all together.
Passive people are easily overrun by others. No matter what, we'll most likely always be the one to take the fall. Others gain advantages and when they come at you, you better pray to god for forgiveness. So basically, our emotions are always shut down by others and lead to extreme sadness on our end.
All of these bad qualities can lead to built up anger, outbursts, loss of self esteem and sometimes psychosomatic problems.
Ooooo, someone did their research. Psychosomatic problems are basically having physical symptoms from mental/emotional causes. Such as arachnophobia or any type of addiction. Subconscious taking over the conscious. Ah, the mind is such a powerful thing.
But, in my perspective there are some ups to having a so-called "passive" personality.
You are a people pleaser, therefore people in general like you. You are never the one to disappoint someone, always there by their side. During a tough situation, we're there to pick you up and put you back on your feet again. We may not give the best advice, but hey, we'll give it a shot to make you feel better.
When the tough gets going, you sit on your ass and you watch a fucking movie. Stress does not foreplay too greatly in a passive person's life. You're not the one to be a bitch when your own fortress is falling down. Play it cool, just like the turtles in Finding Nemo. Therefore, we are the chillest people you will ever meet.
Okay this might not sound like an upside, but for me it was. It's so easy to detach and accept for passive people. When problems show up, they can only affect you if you want them too. Sure, sometimes it's taking the easy way out, but sometimes it can only improve your life. Granted, sometimes I can't tell the difference, but it helps you move on. It helps letting the past, stay the past. It helps you to just focus on what's happening right now and help you face the future.
So what if I'm passive? Don't like it? Cool, because I don't care. I think it's nice to be like this. I think it's nice to make others around you be happy. (God, I'm so passive it's ridiculous)
Sure I can change a few things about my personality, but I don't want to be assertive.
I'm passive and I'm proud.