This! 🙏🏽 #Regram @pinkladoo ・・・ "In this photo my Mum is giving me away at my wedding. I am 1 of 5 girls, we don't have a brother and our Dad left the scene some years ago. This is a cultural custom that is reserved for men - if your father isn’t present, it’s expected that you will find some other suitable male. When my dad left, the community were quick to blame our Mum entirely. Similarly, my sisters and I have had to endure a life time of "don't worry, maybe you'll be blessed with a brother in your next life" type comments. This treatment culminated in a family being uninterested in having my sister's hand in marriage for their son on the basis that our family had too many girls. Our Mum stood strong in the face of the gossip-making aunties and uncles in our community even though she was probably crumbling and devastated on the inside. She raised us to believe that we do not need to depend on a man for our happiness or emotional/financial stability, and that we should learn to stand on our own two feet as early as possible, and as much as possible. That's why we pushed to have the women in our family take on the roles during the wedding that the men 'traditionally' would have, and we also try to practise this sentiment in our daily lives. We hope our story can provide support for other single-parent families. Male-centric traditions and customs are just one way of trying to show women that they are nothing without men, but we know that's not true - we hope that this picture and this story proves that." - Hernoor Grewal Picture from www.gurvirjohal.com Story from @sukhman_grewal and @hernoor_grewal #pinkladoo #equalityissweet #bossbabe #indianwedding #southasianwedding #womeninindia #southasianwomen #indianbride #feminism #girlpower #singlemom #ladoo #secretweddingblog #weddingplanning #weddinginspo #weddingphotography #sikhwedding
