#platonic dates

[mqueerlife]

PLATONIC CUDDLES

i want more platonic cuddling--sitting on your lap, leaning my head on your shoulder, just overall being close with you--without the expectation of romance or dating or 'more'

i want platonic hand-holding and platonic besties going and doing things together maybe going to lunch, the movies, hanging out in a library together

i want this kind of connection, a person who is special who i can buy or make random little gifts for and who i just exist with

[comfyymoon]

platonic dates. platonic dates. platonic dates. let's go to a bookstore together, let's just buy some coffee, let's go eat our favourite food together, let's buy each other flowers, let's write poems for each other, let's write letter to each other, let's go shopping together, let's go on a walk together, let's just go buy groceries together, let's just get some juice and sit on stairs, let's go to the movies, let's go for a hike. let's just be together.

[ambitious-feed-5023]

I wish going out for a nice dinner didn’t have to come with romantic expectations.

Sometimes I just want to say to a friend, “Hey, let’s get dressed up and go to a nice restaurant together,” no romance, just good food and good company.

I really wish platonic dates were more normalized.

If they were, I’d take every single one of you out on one.

[thylocalbard]

Was playing truth or dare today and on my turn a friend (M) asked who I'd date out of a certain group. I said I was starting to think I was aromantic but might go on a platonic date with "X". Cue this conversation:

M: I don't think you know how dating works lol

Me: I do. Have you ever heard about qpr's?

M: what lol

Me: it's like when you're more than friends but not romantically connected

M: Friends with benefits???!!!

Me: Not necessarily, it's just a slightly deeper platonic love. Sex may be involved but not always.

M: Wait does that mean aromantic people can still have sex???

Me: yes, asexuality is a different thing to aromanticism

M: Ew! That's so dirty!

Me: Not unless one person is being deceived about the nature of the relationship.

M: But why would you do that!?

Me: There are different types of love

M: well, it's dirty imo. Wait, does that mean you're dating us???

Me: No

M: But you said you want to date someone platonically

Me: yes. There is a difference. Remember when I said that qpr's involve more than casual friendship?

M: OMG YOU'RE DATING EVERYONE YOU'RE FRIENDS WITH

[bearjam]

Hey can we normalise one on one hangouts with anyone being classified as a date? Like bro not everything is a strictly romantic thing. Chill out. Let me hold my friends hand in Walmart without, we don’t need to be dating to hold hands.

[scarefox]

Always sad when I meet people who basically forbid their partner to have friends from the opposite gender..... Like I met a guy who didn’t want his gf to have male friends and a woman who sees it as cheating if her bf has female friends.... 

(not surprising that both their relationships didn’t last long AND they both broke their own rules. dude was friends with girls and she was lowkey into cheating)

But it’s so dumb and restricting and heteronormative. How about not dating if you can’t trust eo? Also what about bis, with their logic they could never be friends with anyone then. I personally love having friends from all genders regardless if they are in a relationship. If lucky I could get a free second friend to that one friend 🤷‍♂️ And I love listening to partnered friends talking about their loved ones. 

imo it’s even more ‘relaxing’ knowing someone is happy in a relationship, so I don’t have to worry and question if they might like me more than what I like them platonically (unless they are poly or in an open relationship). I can take such ‘we are on a date’ jokes easier when I know they are taken.

[journalofmycrazymind]

Found familys are fun

Platonic relationships are fun

Platonic romantic actions are fun

[bloodyhauntedquartz]

i love my friends so much. the fact that i know multiple people who have respect for me and whom have stood up for me, and the fact i share the same respect towards them. how they’ve always been there for me, even if they don’t understand in any situations i’ve got myself into. they are the people i trust the most, and i share my photography with them, my writing, my music. everything i create i always second guess until someone tells me its worthy of other people seeing it, and i don’t usually even show my parents or family what i make. when i show someone something before i post it that means i trust them with everything. i have social anxiety and a major part of that is a fear of peoples judgement and the fact i know my friends will never judge me. sometimes i fear they will but i know they won’t. my best friend has been in my life for almost seven years. god damn. i need to message my friends and tell them i love them. bye.