#please be safe

[writeranon69]

Don't Fall for this scam.

Transgender community, please please please do NOT use this product! It will kill you if used, please do not use it whatsoever.

Please reblog and spread the word

[parasolladyansy]

Hi-ho, Parasol Lady Ansy (& Sora!) here again 🌧️☀️

With a reminder about heat sickness in light of the extreme heat warnings we’re getting in France & in the US this week or so.

Heat-related deaths in at least France have been rising, so please, please, PLEASE do what you can to stay safe! Have enough cool water on hand (& also eat cooling foods with enough salt to retain said water), wear brighter, lightweight clothes, avoid direct sunlight whenever & however you can (use a dark or dark-underside umbrella like mine), etc.

Heat sickness is not something to take lightly, or just brush off / tough out. If you start to feel lightheaded, weak, very thirsty, nauseous, etc. please take care of yourself. 😢

In the US, we’re forecasted to have record-breaking heat in the east, as well as wildfire conditions in the west. Not good.

If you or someone you know is unhoused (or under-housed, especially when it comes to access to AC or power), we do have emergency cooling centers they can go to. They have a website where you can search where to find one in your state. ❄️

You can also come to the public library - many have water fountains, & most of us have HVAC systems (can’t promise the quality, but it’s better than nothing) as well as free WiFi for you to chill out safely out of the heat. I think some of us may also have some cooling resources as well - better check the library’s website for more details before going. 📖

As for you guys out west, be sure to do what you can do to prevent wildfires. I know nothing about that being on the generally wetter east coast (currently more in drought / flood / storm conditions), so here’s a helpful guide by the NOAA.

Please be safe everyone! ☀️

[chamxmxle]

You have to negotiate all kinks before you can use them safely.

Yes, even "just words." That means degradation and slurs. Yes. All of them.

This can look as simple as, "is it okay if I call you a slut while you're sucking me off?" or as complicated as a checklist of levels with hard limits. It can look like, "remember your safeword if this gets too intense, okay?" It should definitely look like, "how are you feeling about being called X?" afterward.

If someone won't take the time to understand exactly what it is you like and what your limits are, they are not pretending to disrespect you. They are actually doing it.

[venbetta]

Comforting words from Freddy

[forrest-cryptid]

VERY IMPORTANT: PLEASE READ

Hey guys, just giving a quick warning to yall and I suggest you go ahead and block @bagofkitchensupplies for telling my i was toxic, to get raped and KILL MYSELF (and in full seriousness) because I shipped Nuzi. Quick glance at their page, PLEASE be careful because they have very disturbing images on there, and believe it is repelthe22nd all over again

This has happened before, i didnt look too far down their page, but from the first post they might be targeting murder drones fans

It’s happened before. It will probably happen again, so this is a friendly reminder to BE SAFE ON THE INTERNET AND DONT BE STUPID. No one deserves this but please know how to stay safe from people like this <3

EVERYONE STAY SAFE OUT THERE!!!!!

Tags so more people see

@sicksucculentz @raptyzips @thepenguindoesstuff @spacebuggorez @saltysulfuricacid

[mindfullycriminal]

As Kinktober begins, your friendly older tumblr aunt is here to remind you that not all sex you read about online is accurate or even possible! :)

Here are some fun reminders!

Always, always, check for consent before you begin anything with someone else! Check ins during are also good and hot!!!

Use lube - not just spit. Lube is designed to last on your body while spit is soaked into your skin and therefore, not useful. (By all means, if you wanna spit after you’ve applied lube and your partner is into it? Go for it. But lube up first!)

Most people with female anatomy cannot squirt and before you say “it’s in porn!!” Please know that it’s an actual skill that you have to train your body to do. Some people can naturally relax the right muscles - most can’t.

For most people, a 10+ inch dick is ridiculously large and would hurt. Size doesn’t matter half as much as fics make it out to matter -there are so many other factors that matter significantly more. (Angle!! Friction, LUBE, speed, position, etc.)

It’s totally fine (and normal!) to not have an orgasm during sex. Especially if it’s your first time. Yes, even those with male anatomy. Sometimes, sex is about the closeness and the experience, not the orgasm.

USE PROTECTION! Never ever assume your partner is using some form of protection. YOU MUST DISCUSS THIS WITH YOUR PARTNER. It’s only awkward if you make it awkward.

Also, condoms are supposed to be tight on a penis. You can wear the wrong size and it will not work the right way. They can fall off if they’re too big or break from being too tight. However, unless someone has a literal allergy, it being “uncomfortable” is not a valid excuse to not wear a condom. And hey! You/they DO have an allergy?? Guess what - they probably make a condom that you’re not allergic to!! Isn’t science neat? :)

When you put on a condom you need to leave room at the tip. You need to pinch that left over space and verify there are no air bubbles. If there are air bubbles - it’s going to break. If you don’t leave that extra space? It’s going to break. Quite a few condom brands have a built in “ reservoir tip”. If the brand you prefer doesn’t, make sure to physically check that there is room.

NEVER HAVE ANAL SEX WITHOUT LUBE. Yep, back to lube! Guess what happens when you don’t use it? PAIN. The anus does NOT stretch naturally. You have to work it open - PREP WORK. It will tear, it will hurt, and your fun time will be over before it ever began.

Choking someone can be incredibly dangerous if not done properly. Do your research. Your goal isn’t to crush someone’s trachea - that can cause actual permanent damage.

CONSENT! IS! HOT!

Most sex isn’t a BDSM situation. Most people will never enter that type of partnership. BDSM is much, much more than “dominant/submissive”.

On that note, being submissive does not mean always whining, whimpering, or crying. It can mean this - but being submissive is about giving up control and trusting someone else to give you what you need. Submissive does not equal infantilization.

Other hand! Being a dominant does not mean being hard, rough, and emotionally closed off. A dominant understands they are being handed trust from someone and they take that role very, very seriously. Being dominant does not equal being a dick.

“Vanilla” sex is not boring. The term actually was created in the ‘70s but the definition varies depending on the subset of people talking. (Monogamous vs. polyamorous, sexual preference, etc.)

Finally!!

It is completely and totally okay and normal to read about something and like it but not ever want to do it in real life. It’s okay to not like reading about something but enjoy it in real life. It’s okay to try something and never want to do it again or stop halfway through.

It is not okay to shame anyone else for their preferences, even if they differ from your own. :)

Please remember as you’re reading through all the fun fics that they are just that - fiction. Real life is never quite like it’s written and that’s okay! Be safe, do research from real experts, and remember to be nice to your authors!

Enjoy Kinktober!

Signed,

A concerned older tumblr aunt

[spyglassrealms]

I know I joke about hurricanes, because I am a Floridian and that's what we do. But that's because they're Normal, and so all Floridians know the Hurricane Rules. We know how the song and dance goes. West Coasters don't know the Hurricane Rules. You've never needed to know the Hurricane Rules. You guys know the Earthquake Rules, because that's Normal. But because of climate change, Hillary and her cousins are probably going to be a more common occurrence for the southwest. So here are the Hurricane Rules, straight from the Floridian's keyboard.

1: Assume the forecast is going to be wrong, and reality is going to be worse. Get your water jugs and batteries, get your Hurricane Cake, stack the sandbags, board the windows, and put your electronics on a high shelf. And if the NOAA says "category 5" and "landfall" in the same sentence without a "will not" in there, you pack your bags and get the fuck out.

2: Do not fucking go outside. There's surprisingly little lightning in a hurricane, but that's not the problem. It's the wind. The wind will knock you off your feet, either outright or by flinging heavy debris at you. You will not get back up again.

3: If the wind doesn't get you, the water will. Even after the storm has passed, stay the hell away from moving water, both on foot and in a vehicle. When the the flooding has settled down, then you break out the flat bottoms and jet skis and kayaks. Don't fucking swim in it, okay? Don't. The southwest may not have alligators like we do, but all the same you do NOT want to know what's in there. (It's mostly sewage.)

Also, your soil isn't built for inundation, and you've got hills there. Mudslides are going to happen, so be careful of mountain driving in the week or so after the storm comes through.