The magic user community and respect: A rant
This post is more of a rant and worded very unseriously and such, but the point still stands. This post is NOT targeted.
When I first entered the community, I remember there being a post about respect and stuff. It's old now, and I don't remember the original poster, but I feel like it's necessary for it to be said again. A lot of people, new and experienced, sometimes forget basic respect and proper decency. The community has always had its ups and downs with this type of thing, but it's important to reiterate it often. It shouldn't be normalized.
I'm hesitant to even like post this since it might come off rude or immature, but someone has to say it. It's frustrating to most people, and there are people who've just up and left because of how bad it gets 😿. Some people seriously need to get it together, especially when people ask for help only to dismiss it or get rude about it when it isn't what they might want to hear. You can't ask for advice and help only to dismiss it and get hella defensive. That makes people less likely to want to help you. Some people might think since the community is about magic that they can get away with anything and shit, but thats not the case.
Respect is a huge thing basically anywhere. People need to remember that your behavior and shit reflects onto you as a person. You're allowed to speak up for yourself and speak your mind, but theres a point where it's just disrespectful and sometimes ignorant. If anyone remembers this summer, you know EXACTLY what I mean by this. Shit like this is irritating for everyone involved and even people who have nothing to do with it. Not everyone is interested in your arguments, your drama, etc.
One of the main reasons I even thought to make this post was because of people who will ask others to do shit for them. I say this all the time, but you can't and shouldn't expect everyone to do all the work for you. It's YOUR path, you're allowed to ask for help but you can't have everyone do the work for you. It's also just rude to ask someone to do shit like contracting for you imo. Like I said, you can ask for help, but asking/telling people to do it for you is a different story. Your contract and shit is your responsibility. If that person messes up, then that falls back on you since you let them do it.
Another thing is the abundance of misinformation that you can find basically anywhere. There are times where it's a genuine mistake and you correct yourself or someone else does, but doubling down on that shit and preaching it like its gospel is different. ESPECIALLY if you don't have experience in the area or what you're talking about. The misinformation problem has existed since the community began, but as the community grows, it gets worse. You can't hand out advice and tell other people things like they're facts without knowledge on that subject or having your own experience. Again, mistakes happen, and correcting yourself or allowing others to correct you is fine, it happens. But whole entire arguments over things because you want to be right and you think it's fact despite the other things other practitioners say especially when they have more understanding of it is a completely different story.
It's tiring to be in the community sometimes when people lack respect like this. I will reiterate this isn't targeted to anyone, and it's just a rant on how things can be and have been for a while. It's frustrating when people act like they're hot shit and are always right and forget how to talk with respect the minute they enter the community or are greeted with an opposite view point. Some of you guys really need to get it together. When people up and leave the community because of how bad toxicity has gotten, that should be a sign to evaluate your own behavior.
Everyone, please think about your actions, how you word things, etc. Respect is important. This community has had drama and disrespect since like the dawn of time but normalizing it and accepting it as just "a part of the community" doesn't do anything to help the problem. Some people just need to do better and understand they're being disrespectful. Not everyone's gonna change or accept they're being rude, and theres nothing you can do about that, but just accepting it as a normality imo encourages the behavior.
Thanks for tuning into this long ass rant, but I've been wanted to say this for a while. As the community grows, the disrespect issue grows with it.
