I find the way that some white queers think about others and interact with others that are nonwhite- even unknowingly- quite frankly disturbing. No matter who you are, being aware you have privilege in some way (because you probably do!) or just being aware of how others and yourself go about the world similarly/differently is IMPORTANT.
I see this most often in discussions about transandrophobia, where someone will bring up how trans MOC are, in fact, in more danger than a white trans man in comparison. They seem to feel attacked and lash out instead of supporting or deconstructing why they feel that way.
Another way this seems to manifest is when white queers claim that Black culture was made from the LGBTQIA+ community. And while the Black and Queer communities have historically intertwined, this claim of saying that the Black community wasn't the origin of many parts of culture is pure erasure that they don't seem to understand. (Example: Clock it, Queen, most of AAVE actually)
It also comes in people assuming that their lived experience is equivalent to everyone's. The odd victim complex they have in where if something doesn't affect them it doesn't exist is.. worrying, to say the least.
Note: I did not say all white queers. I said SOME. I repeat, I said SOME. So don't drag me into anything. Also, feel free to add with any other points or experiences.