#poly critical

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Uncomfortable Slut: The Dark Side of Polyamory — Countere Magazine

The Personality Girlsexplains why we need to reject polyamory and embrace monogamy.

A very interesting feminist criticism of polyamory

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Funny that poly people say monogamy is about ownership when they collect partners like stamps

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My Not Great View of Poly Pagans

 I have had the unfortunate displeasure of encountering what I call Poly Pagans. I am a Norse/Kemetic Pagan and I've noticed an increase of promotion of polyamory in the community online, especially on different Discords and Facebook as well as a little on Reddit.  The main reason I'm posting this is because it's kind of creeping me out that these people insist that certain historical figures didn't cheat on their wives they probably were just poly. They also seem to have a love-hate relationship with the concept of divorce. On the one hand they said it's a freedom that gets two people who aren't compatible away from each other but at the same time they also said that they wouldn't pay child support or alimony if they were ordered to. They also try to reinterpret mythological stories that are clearly there to point out why cheating is bad especially for children namely due to having to raise a child that isn't yours against your will and how that can affect the child because they will feel unloved. This particular person insisted that it was their right because it was their body, and well, their children will just have to deal with it.  They also literally said that cheating is a derogatory word and that polyamorous people don't cheat because it's all consensual. They also literally said that cheating is a derogatory word and that polyamorous people don't cheat. They also like to reinterpret mythological and even biblical texts to support their lifestyle when they're not actively reframing a story about how cheating is bad and harmful that is. This is still nothing in the face of them trying to insist that certain historical figures were poly and not cheaters. I even saw one of these idiots try to do this with Henry VIII. They insist that because most marriages were not about love historically, that must have meant that polyamory was the norm and monogamy a diseased exception. What these people fail to understand is that this often mainly applied to the really wealthy and or to people who are really trying to get a leg up in society because people just married someone they knew whether that be for Love or not and yes Arranged marriages were common in a lot of places but that doesn't mean there wasn't love between those people. An arranged marriage is not necessarily a forced marriage because some people do want to have an arranged marriage because it makes their life easier since they don't have to be the ones to do all the hard work of settling things financially oftentimes among other things. What they seem to fail to understand is that marriages were for stability as well as status whether that be through social or economic means. Love was viewed as detrimental to marriage because they knew people would do stupid things in the name of love like running away with the stable boy, which would lead to the ruination of the whole family and even one's own future children and grandchildren. One's actions affected everyone in the whole family and even the whole community sometimes. Cross post from Reddit.

P.S: Edit to Add. I don't care if I sound hateful, but this is not rage bait or whatever the fuck the internet calls it. I experience this stuff on Ocean Keltoi's Discord and elsewhere. I'm not just going to assume that people know that the Hellenist YouTuber Aliakai is one of the people like this, which did not surprise me when I found out about her because she sounded sketchy in some of her stuff. She always talked about money and seemed to whine when she thought she deserved more.

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I legit think she should just wait for him to go to work or something and just pack her stuff and leave and then ghost him. Send him the divorce papers on his birthday.

I’m glad she found someone that treats her better and I hope she will be able to speak up for herself in the future in her new relationship.

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