#monogamy

[ajp81]

I also don't have a problem with people being monogamous or traditional. I have a problem with people using that as a means to feel morally superior to others. It's so fucking tiring and boring to keep talking about polyamory or open relationships. Worry about your house before others'. 

[miaisabelwinther]

My journal entry for the day.

I miss and love my perfect handsome Dudu (Daddy Grey).😚❤💓

[miaisabelwinther]

I have cleaned today and havr taken a shower. My hair is growing (yay) and there is new septum jewelry on the way.

I miss and love my perfect handsome Dudu (Daddy Grey).😚❤💓

[miaisabelwinther]

My diary entry for today.

I love and miss my perfect handsome Dudu (Daddy Grey).😚❤💓

[witchermannova]

Thoughts??????

It feels like modern western relationships ask one person to be an entire village.

Your partner is supposed to be your soulmate, best friend, therapist, co-parent, roommate, emotional support system, favorite hobby partner, intellectual equal, source of stability, source of passion, source of novelty, sexual fulfillment, life planner, and safest place in the world all at once.

And if one part feels missing, people immediately wonder if the whole relationship is broken.

But what people talk about even less is how intense that pressure becomes when two people come from completely different worlds.

Different upbringings. Different trauma. Different cultures. Different relationship models. Different communication styles. Different sexual histories. Sometimes even different orientations or completely different experiences of attraction and intimacy.

One person may see love as security and exclusivity.

Another may see love as freedom and honesty.

One person may need constant closeness.

Another may need independence to feel emotionally healthy.

One person may experience attraction in a very fluid way.

Another may only bond deeply through exclusivity.

And modern culture still expects those two people to somehow perfectly fulfill every emotional, romantic, and sexual need for each other forever.

That is a massive emotional task.

Historically, people leaned on friends, siblings, extended family, elders, neighbors, spiritual communities, and shared labor for support and identity. Now romantic relationships are expected to carry almost all of that weight alone.

No wonder people feel exhausted.

No wonder people feel guilty for needing community, privacy, friendship, space, or forms of intimacy that do not fit neatly into the approved model.

Sometimes the relationship is not failing.

Sometimes two people are trying to bridge entirely different inner worlds while carrying expectations no relationship was ever meant to hold by itself.

[miaisabelwinther]

I have ordered these two books. I look very much forward to head them.📚

I miss and love my perfect handsome Dudu (Daddy Grey).😚❤💓

[miaisabelwinther]

I made a new lip piercing today.😊

I miss and love my perfect handsome Dudu (Daddy Grey).😚❤💓