it is sooo hard. i try to be good, but i don't have the best track record. i don't have a lot of self-discipline or fortitude. i do my best though, honest!
my Mistress knows that i use masturbation as one of my coping mechanisms, so she doesn't want to outlaw it completely. but She's not exactly a fan.
things like denial and chastity are very fun to read. i fantasize a lot about my choice being taken away from me, or the punishments i might face.
Hmm. Tricky. I like playing around with tease and denial and masturbation because those are topics I enjoy. I think if I didn't enjoy those topics and that sort of play, it might make sense to not control that aspect of someone? But everyone does what works for them and it's not up to me.
I know for me that when some coping mechanisms or regulation strategies get harder, having more options or things to try can be useful. I use Finch which has some breathing exercises, stim tools like stimagz or multiuse button cubes etc. I take baths and try to relax and give myself accomodations I need.
Hydrate. Get enough sleep. Go outside sometimes and go for a walk. Etc.