#poor fanny

[bethanydelleman]

AITA for not participating in a play?

u/AnOceanAway

I am not really sure if I'm right and I don't know who to ask.

I (F18) was informally adopted by my uncle's family, though he is away right now. All of my cousins want to put on a play while he is gone, which I find disrespectful. I didn't say anything against it to anyone, but when they asked me to participate I just couldn't. I'm worried my uncle will be angry and also I'm terrified of acting. I have really bad stagefright, even with just my family (though there are some friends of my cousins here too).

When I said I didn't want to, my aunt said I was being ungrateful for everything that the family has done for me. I went upstairs to my room and saw all the things people have bought me since I've lived here and now I'm thinking I should have said yes. After all, I owe them all so much. Infinity obliged. If they hadn't decided to bring me up I wouldn't have all the advantages that I've been given. I really should be more grateful.

My one cousin said I could decide for myself, but the others say I'm ruining everything. AITA for not wanting to be in the play?

Edit: My parents are alive, they just have a lot of kids so my uncle took me in at 10.

Top Comments:

u/GlitterTrashcan

NTA It's your choice if you want to be in the play or not, you aren't their slave.

If your uncle took responsibility for raising you, then he is obligated to buy you things. No one can ask for compensation from a child for being alive. You didn't chose to be born and I doubt you chose to go to your uncle's house.

The fact that you feel guilty for saying no is worrying honestly. Your fear of being ungrateful sounds like brainwashing.

u/BunnyBunBun

OP are you okay? I don't understand how you could think you were the AH in this situation. Is there anyone else you can move in with? Can you go back home?

NTA by the way.

u/RocksAndMountains

No amount of gratitude or family responsibility should make you act against your principles. If you need someone to deliver a scathing rebuke or flat refusal, I'm your girl. I have way more experience than I should.

I know you are a rational creature speaking the truth from your heart, but sometimes people really seem to have trouble listening.

Edit: forgot the rating, NTA

AITA Jane Austen Masterpost

[smilingoceanlover]

When anybody in Mansfield Park goes on about the merits of Fanny Price’s match with Henry Crawford its 100% about how great it is that she’d fix him and then his raising her consequence in society would be justified.

All the 🚩🚩🚩 flying and absolutely everyone gaslighting Fanny over the whole thing.

So timely of you, Jane Austen my queen.

[rubadubdub3nunsinatub]

DG be like i hate writing about children but when i do i theyre getting sexual abused

[odd-may]

I sure am loving Jane Austen’s Friendzone Park.

[fandral-the-dashing-is-here]

Single Parent AU

Fandral sat in the coffee shop, cradling a baby in one arm while he sipped it. The baby looked up at him, cooing and reaching for his coffee. "You can't have this, little one," he giggled, holding the bottle up for her. He was getting some strange looks from the other people in the coffee shop, but he mostly ignored them. He did not understand why it was so strange for them to see. @shutupikol

[sword-punk]

oh no....i just watched bright star...for the first time........i guess i'll cheer myself..up....by...catching up on...hannibal....????