Loving the Idea of a Person
It has always fascinated me that we can imagine having conversations with other people. With varying degrees of accuracy, perhaps depending on experience with the person and your personal skill at prediction, we can imagine their responses and whether things will make them happy or not.
We have this false self that we have created for them. We think we know how they will respond to things, and we think that we understand. But what if we are wrong?
If we build people up because we want them to be great, or horrible, or whatever else, then how would we respond if we interact with them and they are something different. This is more of a problem the less we know about a person.
I suppose that there is a degree of certainty that we can have with each person, depending on how well we know them, but we can never be sure. Humans are too complicated; how we react to a statement can depend on our mood, how we feel at that moment, our feelings about the other person, and numerous other environmental/temporary factors.
Is it folly to even predict what another person might say? I think not! But we must be aware of that margin of error, especially regarding people we do not know well.
Who knows what he/she might say?
The best relationship advice I ever received: Just go talk to her!
(PS. This does not mean she should not ever start a conversation with you though...it works both ways.