Feyre is kind of lazy. She could've asked Nesta or even Elaine, the softer sister, to teach her to read, but yet she didn't. She threw a fit when Tamlin tried to teach her read.
I think she always chooses the easier, more pleasant way.
Getting to know a court of people, make connections, adapt to a culture, learn and grow is harder especially for her who literally behaves like a raging teenager, than being paraded around, getting fingered in front of everyone, and letting her beauty and skills get objectified.
The spring court noble fae had to trust her, like her, accept her by her behavior. Meanwhile the night court basically had to accept because the high lord said so. She got the inner circle's trust, and Hewn city's respect easier because it was handed by Rhys, and she didn't have to earn it herself. Being a High lady with Rhysand was easier, she got the jewels,the houses, the pretty dresses and the crown just by fucking with Rhysand.
She did some paperwork and already started to whine about it and plot to get an assistant, not even thinking of the illyrian women or the poor parts of Velaris.
She got the wings by magic and some back muscle exercises, and immediately fetishised it. And didn't even bother to learn the cultural significance behind it, or think of illyrian women wing clippings, and how she can help. Just accepting what Rhys told her about wings (which half of it was sexual). Letting Rhysand handle the Nesta fiasco and sending her to fight was easier for her than to actually listen and try to help heal her sister's trauma.
Letting Elaine sit and falter in a dark room, and saying she would look better with Az (who usually handles everything for the inner circle basically so why not Elaine too) is easier than actually doing something. Feyre always chose the easiest way for herself.
