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(ref. here) - for my fav of all @mcdceamy - McTwcsty & McDceamy ftw.
Who is the most affectionate?
I think they both are, in their own ways. Derek is clearly the romantic one in the couple, but Meredith will show her affection in other ways. She knows what Derek likes and dislikes, what makes him happy, she knows him and she will do things that will make him happy to show her affection. But Derek most definitely is the most demonstrative one.
Who initiates the handholding?
Derek. Definitely Derek. However, when Derek is having moments of vulnerability, Meredith will reach out his hand to show him support. Derek hates being vulnerable, but he cannot resist Meredith grabbing his hand. That wins him over. And the thing to know about Meredith is that she steps up in times of crisis or need, and somehow I believe that gets Derek through, knowing she is right there to help him through them. He did tell her when he proposed to her you’ve seen worse, you’ve survived worse, and you know we’ll survive too - I believe he thinks of that every time a crisis hits and she reaches for his hand; he knows he’ll be fine so long as she’s by his side. She’s survived the worst things we can think of and more, she is wired for catastrophic situations.
Who worries more for the other?
Derek would definitely be the one to worry the most about Meredith, but I also think it’s debatable. I think we think that because we see it, but Meredith feels things on the inside. She does not demonstrate nearly as much as Derek does how she feels or what she thinks. I would think that she worries a lot about Derek’s wellbeing, as much as Derek worries about hers. But I think Derek worries more in terms of Meredith’s issues and dark and twisty-ness. Because of all she has been through and how she puts up a front about it, and he just wants to be there and fix her. In a way, I think he wants to fix her because he feels that she has fixed him completely. He was at his lowest, and she breathed life back into him when they met. And that is the biggest gift anyone can give anyone, and I think he wants to make her as happy as she makes him just by being around him. (I sort of took that question to some other place but we all know I love them too much not to do that. Also that gif literally kills me!)
Who is more likely to ask for help?
Tough one because they both have big egos and a hard time asking for help, but I would think Derek might be more inclined to ask for help. Meredith has managed alone her whole life up until she found her people at the hospital. Although Derek has had to step up as the man of the house very early on and had to be the one helping. That’s a really good question. I’ll say Derek though, I feel like he is more open to being helped in every day situations than Meredith, who would - out of habit, do it all alone.
Who is the one always losing the keys?
Clearly Meredith.
Who leaves little love notes for the other?
I think they are both too much workaholics to write each other notes on papers. That and Meredith is not the romantic type, and I think that no matter how romantic at heart Derek is, he knows that’s not really Meredith’s thing. The only piece of paper they wrote love things to one another was their post-it, and I think that’s the most amazing little love note they could ever write for one another.
Who can’t sleep unless the other is there?
Meredith. She does not sleep well without him. Like when she said how she has realized that she can live without him, but does not want to. While Derek was away, she was either sleeping with Cristina on Facetime operating, or with the 3D tumor print, or the kids she moved into the room, so not to be alone. After Derek’s death she has learned to sleep without him, but I believe the best sleep she ever got in her life was when she had him around. Even all the way back, when she was snoring so bad Derek would move out to the living room and then sneak back in the room just in time for Meredith to wake up with him there - he knows she cannot sleep without him around.
Who is more likely to propose to the other?
Derek, obviously.
Who introduced the other to their family first?
It was an unwilling situation on both sides. Addison showing up, and then Ellis showing up. But in terms of introducing, I would surprisingly say Meredith introducing Derek to her father, Thatcher. It came from Susan who insisted on getting them together, and Meredith needed Derek around because she sucks at family and knows he wins people with his charm. She half used him, half really badly needed him by her side to help her survive that dinner. And then obviously when he met Ellis the second time around, when she was lucid. Later on, Nancy showed up, another unplanned encounter. The one that was planned on Derek’s part was his mother coming to town to meet Meredith, and she ended up giving Derek her very own wedding ring - which his dad had given to her, so he could propose to Meredith.
Who is more likely to play with the other’s hair?
Definitely Meredith, she has a thing for Derek’s hair. (I mean who doesn’t.)
Who makes sure the other has meals/stays hydrated?
Meredith. Everyone would think Derek, but he cannot could any better than Meredith can, and everyone remember that one time he got home so late it was almost morning and he almost ate the old cheese from the fridge? Meredith told him not to eat it, she ordered pizza that should arrive in any minute. Turns out pizza was Zola but - she still spared him of a severe stomach bug. Derek eats cereals from the box, he’s a Cristina. No use in a kitchen.
Who is more likely to stand up to anyone for the other?
That is a tricky one. Meredith will stand for her people to anyone. Her people are her family and everything she’s got. And Derek is the love of her life. But I feel like maybe I would say Derek. After all, even when things were so messy and he even was having a hard time handling Meredith’s issues and understanding her, he stood up for her to anyone and defended her, like that one time he stood up for her to Mark and told him to shut up because he had no idea who Meredith was and what she had gone through. He loves her so much that he would do anything for her, literally. Or, of course, when Meredith drowned and he went to Ellis to blame her for leaving Meredith so scarred for life. He most definitely has Meredith’s back.
Who is the most likely to prepare a surprise for the other?
Anyone would say Derek but um hello, who built the candle house? Thank you. #igotmygirlsback
Who makes the other pinky promise not to do certain things?
They definitely do not pinky promise, but they both tell one another not to do things. What comes to mind right away is when Meredith told Derek not to ever cheat on her or she would kill him, and we all know she really meant it. Oh my god but now it just hit me that he went and kissed that fellow - OH MY GOD. I mean, I personally do not consider it cheating. She kissed him, and though he did not pull away fast enough for my liking, I believe he got wrapped up in the moment and he needed that moment to happen for him to realize how much his marriage is important for him, how much he loves his wife and kids, and how he really wants to fight to make it work - and this time around really does want it to work. (My heart goes out to Addison who he led on for far too long, making her think he wanted to save his marriage when he just had to be the good guy that tries - and all the while was thinking about Meredith.)
Who puts a blanket over the other when they fall asleep on the couch?
Clearly Derek does. But honestly, all Meredith needs is his warm embrace and obviously dreamy scent because we all know the man smells like every girl’s dream. Which he is!
That was so much fun! Thanks for sending that in! :)