#proship objectum

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I love my soft doll. Holding her really soothes me and makes me happy.

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If I had a nickel for every time I’ve had an objectum ship where the character left/got rid of the object, I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot, but it’s weird that it happened twice.

(Umbrella Academy Five/Delores, Warrior Cats Jayfeather/Stick)

[And since I mentioned Five: I don’t feel comfortable s*xualizing a live-action character played by a minor. The adult actor versions of Five are fine tho. As is the comic Five, whose design isn’t based on a real life minor. Just making my/our boundaries clear.]

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We also have a nice unicorn pillow pet and she’s very soft. 🦄 🥰 /platonic

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We have a deer plushie and she’s our friend.

We got her at a museum gift shop as a kid after a sad painting made us cry. (It was an overall good experience, including the experiencing sad emotions through art. No worries!)

She’s very soft, and has two textures of cloth/fur on her. It’s nice to cuddle her and we’ve brought her with us before so we can pet her!

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We have another beloved object to talk about. This one is a soft/cloth doll we’ve had for a long time. She was our favorite as a child (after she replaced the original favorite who was lost; possibly stolen by a friend because the first doll went missing after the friend came over…)

But I created a sort of family tree with some of my plushies and cloth dolls, where big zebra plushie was my husband, another doll was my daughter, and then the other dolls and a small zebra plushie were my granddaughters. Also I had another toy that was my son-in-law! And (new) favorite doll was one of the granddaughters in this. (I don’t think I made a family tree while I had original favorite doll.)

I don’t know if I’d see her has a grandchild or even a daughter now. Maybe more like a little sister? Definitely a familial bond though. I do still have her, though, and it’s so soothing to hold her close.

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We want to talk about one of our beloved objects! (We haven’t detangled which of us feels what for him, so we’re gonna just use 1st person plural and not get into specific headmates.)

He’s a zebra plushie. We love to cuddle him and smooch him. When we sleep, we like to put him next to us. We used to hold him, but now we hold a pillow to try and support our neck/head. So we put him so he’s against our legs, or against our back. It’s really comforting to hug him. We’ve had him for years, so he’s very familiar.

Our romantic feelings for him started with one of our early fiction self-ships as a kid, since we used him as like an “actor” to fill in the role of the character— and then, with new self-ships, we continued to use him for the role of whatever character we were self-shipping with. We continued to do it as we got older, too. Eventually, we stopped using our plushies etc as “actors”, and just love them directly. Though only some of them I feel like I have a relationship with; some familial, some platonic, and— in zebra plushie’s case— romantic.

Knowing that there’s a community of people who have objectum relationships and that there’s non-objectum folks who accept objectum folks really helped our self-acceptance.

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Objectum (Pelu/Plusho) Wendy vibes

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Feel free to ask about our beloved objects or our self-ship stuff!

We don’t consider our beloved objects sentient but our feelings for them are genuine to us.

Our self-ships are just for fun and we consider them fantasies rather than relationships, though some of us have/had romantic relationships with fictives/fictionkin people.

We’re a median system and often aren’t sure exactly which of us is/are in control at times.

We’re not sure if we want to use any of the names/handles we do in other places. There probably wouldn’t be any harm, since our online friends are chill with objectum and selfship and proship, but we’re collectively shy about it.