Pro-life vs pro choice
I am sick and tired of reading about pro-life versus pro-choice. I am pro-choice, because I believe that everyone should be able to choose what they do with their own body. If it’s abortion, fine. If it’s sex work, fine. If it’s plastic surgery, you do you. If it’s drugs, it’s not good but whatever, I’m not going to look down on you for something that is your choice and usually a way of dealing with things. I am pro-choice for everything.
Which is why I believe it’s OK to be pro-life. Because that is your choice. No, I don’t agree with it, but who the hell cares? And if people that pro-life care about life so much, why the hell is what I do with my life anything to do with the Now, where I’m OK with people being pro-life if that’s what they believe, I’m not OK with a lot of the actions and words said to people who have abortions. In no way, NO WAY, is an early abortion murder. It’s not a baby, it might be to you, but it’s not. It is a fetus. Yes, it is growing and living. But so is the grass that you mow because the lawn is getting too long. So are the cells you exfoliate because your skin needs it. Why is this different? Oh, because it’s human. Sure. It’s human. To an extent. But what is the mother? A living, breathing human being. Not a group of cells. The mother can be going through any single thing and you do not have to right to deem her responsible for another human life.
I’m going to use myself as an example. I’ve been wrestling with the fact that I’m having an abortion for weeks now. Not because I don’t agree with it, but because I didn’t know if I wanted a child now or not. And at this point, I know I’m not in the right state of mind to have one. I had unprotected sex, and took the morning after pill. That says itself I don’t want one. But now I’m pregnant I’ve had to make the choice ALONE about whether I want to raise a child. I don’t want to have a child when I barely know the father. I don’t want to have a child out of a stable relationship. I don’t want to have a child when I’m just trying to figure my life out, when I’m a mess with depression and anxiety. That is not fair on me, or what would be a baby. I would not be able to take care of it.
Now, I’ve seen one person say that if you can have sex, you can have a child. What the hell kind of logic is that? Sex is easy, sex is fun, I’m good at sex and it makes me feel good. Raising a child is not easy, it’s not guaranteed that it will be fun, that you will be good at it, or that it will make you feel good. But consensual sex is. Yes, I was irresponsible and had sex without a condom. But who the fuck cares? It was irresponsible and it has put me in a horrible situation that I don’t want to be in, one where I’m making the hardest decions of my life. But I will learn from it. I won’t make this mistake again. In no way does having unprotected sex mean I want a child. It means I was drunk and horny and wanted to fuck someone quickly. Judge me all you want but I am not ready for a child.
Another argument I’ve read is that of using the “taxpayers money” for an abortion. If they can’t afford an abortion, how the hell would they be able to afford a child. That’s backwards logic. Oh yeah, let’s force them not to “kill their baby” and force them to have a life they cant afford and potentially kill both the mother and child anyway. I know that is an extreme, but it’s possible. And you cannot guarantee the child would be safe.
I’m not even going to talk about people being against abortion in cases of rape because that’s just idiotic and I’m pretty sure you can tell my opinion on that. So if you’re pro-life, that’s nice. I hope that you are truly happy with that and are never put in a horrible situation where you’re forced to keep a child you know you aren’t ready for. Truly, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. But don’t push your beliefs on pro-choice people because they don’t want to be parent.
I say the same for people who disagree with pro-life people. Yes, I’ve said alll that I have above. But that doesn’t mean I don’t believe you should believe what you want. It means I don’t agree with what is said about people like myself. I would happily have a discussion about it, but I won’t judge you for your beliefs, as I’d expect you not to judge me for mine.
This was a lot longer than I expected but I was really angry about what I was reading.
Tl;dr it’s my body, you do not get to decide what I do with mine, or anyone else does with theirs. You do what you want with yours, but I’ll be damned if I let you dictate what I do with mine.
