So my love and I are talking marriage and thinking a lot about marriage and proposals and the future I have come to a realization. Public proposals aren’t bad. No seriously hear me out. Whenever we hear about a public proposal, we collectively flinch and in general the idea is “Omg this doesn’t give the person the right to say no.” This is messed up, not because it’s wrong, but because we are thinking about it the wrong it way. If you and your intended are serious and on the same page about the future and want to get married, chances are you have discussed marriage enough that you both decide a general time when a proposal could happen)if that’s something you both want. And generally you and your intended would know enough to about each to know if a public proposal is your thing. That public inherent cringe of public proposals comes from believing that the woman doesn’t have the right to say no. It’s an old hang on from the past when men made the major decisions for families. We are so far removed from this concept(literally couple can now be whatever gender and sexuality they want) that I think instead of cancelling public proposals, we should cancel relationships where one person thinks it’s okay to propose to their partner without having serious conversations (yes plural) about it. Let’s cancel toxic relationships where one person purposely makes grand gestures to manipulate the other. Let’s start reframing the mentality that toxic relationships are worse than being single. And friends, If you’re the couple that loves public grand gestures, then carry on friends I’ll be cheering for you.
