A world where women don't know what they want
Is a bullshit cover-up for many males lack of ability to make a decision for themselves or to please the woman they want. Read more
As far as im concerned, I’ve grown up around Women that do know what they want…. and I’ve seen the males that have to be told what they want half the time and particularly how to get it if they do know what they want. Many believe what ever decision is made in a relationship is their own because they’re the one society labels the stamp holder.
What woman WANTS to be disrespected? Be with an unambitious person, treated like a subordinate to some dominant loser? What woman doesn’t want romance, to feel appreciated by the man she loves. What woman likes to be told what to do, what woman doesn’t want to be surprised, taken care of in certain areas of their life and protected? . Boys use this theory to satisfy their lack of ability to be that person the woman they want wants. They think wearing the alpha male mask changes things by using her insecurity to get what you want, ”women are clueless so you need to show her what she wants by dominating the situation” the reason why it a so great to get a guy that knows how to handle a situation or make the final decision without manipulation, being annoying or dishonest is because most do not know how to go around it; it’s the trait of someone who wants to go forward, irrespective of the situation.
If you want this discussion to go far , let me address this nice and clearly: the idea of some females not knowing what they want can, within some level of reason be reserved for the superficial topics that tends to occur in the presence of men idk why: “Salmon, or tuna”, “France or Morrocco” “I’m bored, can we do something? What do you suggest? ”… If you’re going to base the idea of women not knowing their desires on fickle, insubstantial things like that then good luck. And stop here.
Most of the time, women know what they want in life and from a worthwhile relationship; we just feel guilty for having to ask so. That, comes from the idea that though many of us give, the idea of taking doesn’t sit well with us. A woman that goes out to get what she wants is a different breed to the one that believes the world owes her something.
The one that asks for everything material under the sun is the one that doesn’t know if she wants a “nice guy” or a “bad boy” (bear in mind those labels bore me) She likes the drama, but can’t Handle the unstable reality. She likes the bags you so willingly give her your credit card to get, but she doesn’t like when you come across as disrespectful. She knows if she wants to go to that expensive restaurant, or that she wants you to take her to Dubai instead of Thailand. But she doesn’t realise it could be at the cost of being truly valued and appreciated on a substantial level.
When it comes down to it, it’s the maturity and upbringing of that female that makes the difference. I hate being put into a bracket of being this confused sort of “sub-species” if you’re not what I want, it’s not because I don’t know what I want. It’s simply because I don’t wantchu!!
Men too, do not know what they want at times. Yes, they may know they want the supreme hamburger And go for it, but do all know that by 25-30 they WANT to be a self sufficient man; that they go out and get it? No. Not all Men do. Do they want the hot girl who they can manipulate, and buy her stuff for her silence and their peace of mind? Or do they want the woman that’s worked hard for her status, is direct with her expectations and pushes them otherwise? Some men, do not!
What differentiates the male and female that knows what they want from a relationship or for life from those who don’t is their level of maturity.
An immature guy wants the good stuff without the hard work and will move on when he’s bored or his insubstantial efforts are exhausted. Same with the immature girl. Unless she finds someone else who can provide her the same thing, just in surplus.
Which is why some men and women cheat. Because they’re too damn immature to make a decision. They want everything and think that the world owes them ish. People always make mistakes towards getting what they want. Some of us humans start off as that immature girl or guy before Becoming that relentless woman our man. No body is perfect. We learn from our mistakes and narrow down our options to cater to our wants and needs.
There are a few people that ticks more boxes more than others. Love is a strange thing for us….. because it can be blind and we fall in love with the idea we have of a person (i.e. their potential or the person they were at the start) before who they really are…but this doesn’t mean we don’t know what we want. We live in a society where we are made to think that what we want is impossible. That we’re told what we should want, can have or should have isn’t believable and that you should lower your standards or forget the whole deal. But I’m one for never settling, I’ll compromise the fickle things that wouldn’t matter overtime…(plus gym memberships and health food stores are never too far away).
A good man will get a good woman. (I do not use the terms Man and woman loosely)…. It is a shame that we live in a world where we justify our inability to satisfy our wants by suggesting that something is wrong with the thing we want rather than being encouraged to take a step back to maybe look at ourselves. So to close, If you’re a guy that thinks that you are not wanted by that special girl in your life because she doesn't know what she wants, stop thinking you’re God’s gift to women and start being a good man worth wanting or, Maybe that girl really isn't who you should be with... she could be stuck in wanting the things that doesn't matter and still has a lot to learn..... And girls, no man is worth changing yourself or desires for. Just don’t be shallow about it. your happiness comes first. and visa versa for both the latter and former.... we're all humans here.
Seek peace, Always x