Astro Observations (LGBTQ+ Synastry edition 1)
Hi, everyone! Hope you are doing well!
So, for this series I thought I'd take a specific look at synastry between queer couples.
Most of astrology is built around heteronormativity, and things like synastry get adapted to fit queer people, but from the basic hetero information we have. Some of it works; some of it does not.
So I decided to explore different possibilities, so that we can have a more broad and varied list of info to look into. I will be doing several parts to this, ranging from planets, to signs, to house overlays. And perhaps aspects.
DISCLAIMER: As usual, these are just POSSIBILITIES. They are not rule, and they do not apply to all like the law. Also, individual natal charts MUST BE LOOKED AT AS A WHOLE.
These are my personal observations and findings, and I am always happy to take different input and experiences, so that I can continue building what I know. As I learn, I will be adding more information to posts.
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PLANETS
Sun -
I noticed that Sun does take a bit more relevance in queer relationships.
All in all, the sun isn't one of the most important planets in synastry, but when it comes to queer dynamics, it seems to be more relevant.
Gay men/masculines - Sun-Sun synastry seems to be relevant here. Specially regarding the aspects.
In gay synastry, I notice that recognition and affinity is very prominent. Men need to feel like the other guy is like him. They need to feel a sense of friendship and kinship.
The sun is a large portion of our ego. So when their suns are in positive aspects (trine or sextile), even if just by degree, men tend to feel attracted. Oppositions may or may not work, depends on their natal charts. Squares are always a no.
Lesbians/feminines - Complimentary Suns, I notice to be the most prominent feature regarding sun synastry between them. In terms of signs/elements.
Women seem to be more into a push and pull dynamic, but not exactly opposites. They want difference between them, but also similarity, so that the purposes are aligned. So combinations between signs in the same element or complimentary elements (water-earth, fire-air) are they most common occupance.
Also, friendship is less of a component of their relationships. So feminines don't necessarily need to be friends before dating, or even feel like their partner is their "friend" a lot of the time. Instead, there's a stronger "familial bond" between them. It's less looking for a buddy, and more looking for a housemate.
Moon -
Because of the nature of being queer, emotional safety is a big component of what makes up a relationship between non-hetero couples.
Moons aspects tend to be more revealing of the shadows of the relationships than the light, though, it seems. So I would argue that it's less likely to have a moon synastry that only shows up good results. Often, it will be a mix of the good and bad of the moon placements.
Gay men/masculines - For men, believe it or not, the more toxic or challenging aspects of the moons tend to breed attraction. They can feel like the conflicting energies represent passion, and it can feel exciting or motivating to conquer, like there will be a big payoff.
It's either that, or the complete opposite, and they seek immense emotional compatibility, so moon conjunct moon or at least in the same sign. Again - having the same moon can lead to emotional exaggeration and fight for dominance too, besides the emotional sameness. Like I said, both aspects - good and bad - tend to manifest.
There's a need to heal or be healed by one another.
Common occurrences are: moon opposite moon, moon square moon, moon in challenging houses (4th, 8th, 12th), or the same moon. Trines tend to be felt as boring.
Lesbians/feminines - Similar to men with the sun, the moon represents the ego for women in these relationships, and therefore, it's where they derive their bond from.
I noticed that a lot of the time, queer feminines tend to look for moon opposition between them, but rather more by sign than by degree. It's not so much opposition specifically, but more like dissonance, which can include opposition. The thing is that they seek very different energies between them, to a point in which they have very defined roles in their relationship (e.g.: the impulsive one and the organized one| the aggressive-possessive one and the submissive-nurturing one| the quiet one and the expansive one etc.)
They like the difference between them, as sort of an emotional need for balance and stability. Different natures account for different aspects of the relationship, which means all bases covered. Woman adapt well to emotions, so moon is also a big planet when it comes to sexual compatibility.
Mercury -
Of course there's all types of experiences and relationships, but I notice a lot of occurrences in which Mercury is more of a problem than a unifier.
We have to understand the deeply psychological nature of queer relationships, considering that LGBTQ+ people live in a binary heteronormative society, but at the same time, existing "outside of it". So the role models of being human are all binary and heteronormative. Queer relationships demand a lot of working through emotional wounds, traditional roles, expectations, dreams of fitting the queer reality into the non-queer molds... But also having all of those feelings unprocessed and unexpressed. So communication is simultaneously a MUST and a struggle.
Gay men/masculines - Despite men being stereotyped as rational, Mercury is actually not that conductive to much in synastry. In terms of attraction, I mean.
Mercury will only really become a thing in these relationships when it's looking at a long-term commitment.
Obviously, poor communication and conflict will ruin ANY relationship. But just like women think they can adapt to any differing emotional reality, men think they can adapt to any differing intellectual reality. Most often, hard aspects will breed clashes. And the positive ones won't really do much, but rather be a nice, soft support. It's just like good conversation.
Most common: Mercuries in the same element.
Lesbians/feminines - Here we have a similar situation. Mercury doesn't really do all that much between women.
Something I notice is quite common is Mercury relations only becoming apparent when it's really conflicting Mercuries, likes squares. Mild or soft aspects between Mercuries are more lived than felt or seen.
Common: Aspects between Mercury and Mars. This one is a key factor in physical attraction between feminines. Even the square can cause sexual tension between them.
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Well, that is it for now, guys!
I hope somebody can resonate with it. Next post will be touching on Mars, Venus and the rising.
Let's give this a test and see if it works. Let me know in the comments if you have anything to add or ask.
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