I’m learning to validate myself for myself. There are thousands of other queer folk out there who married straight because that’s what’s expected by societal norms. I thought I would only have to come out ONCE, but I find myself preparing to do that again. And the same anxiety, dread, fear, and frustration showed up to the party.
More than that, I’m afraid of the damage I’ll do to him. Putting everyone else’s needs ahead of mine is how I got to this point. I gotta learn how to be more selfish with my life, I’m walkin around giving up my time on Earth like I can come back and do this shit again.









