hey, so i have a few questions about gender iden because i’m kinda losing my mind. so i’m AFAB, and i use she/her pronouns and am comfortable w/ addressing myself as female. but like at the same time, sometimes i don’t feel like your typical female, for lack of better descriptive terms. but i’m still comfortable w/ being female, i just sometimes feel kinda detached from typical femininity, but it’s not all the time that i get this. im not sure if this makes me genderqueer or just GNC. in all honesty, i don’t fully understand the definition online of genderqueer, and i feel that it doesn’t explain it well enough. the way i’ve interpreted it as any gender identity under the “not-cis” umbrella, but i don’t know if that’s correct. and like also, i feel like GNC is a fitting way to describe my gender, but idk if thats a valid term that i can use to describe/label my gender identity. i’m just very confused, and was wondering if you could provide any insight as to what the heck is going on and the difference between genderqueer and GNC. thanks!
ok, so genderqueer describes anyone whose gender is queer in any way, that obviously includes trans and nonbinary people, but also gnc people and anyone whose queerness impacts their gender or the other way around. Cis people can be genderqueer.
(@genderqueercultureis has more posts on that)
GNC means gender-nonconforming, that can mean not conforming to the expectations of one's gender, but also not conforming to the concept of gender or gender expression.
You can use both gnc and genderqueer and still identify as a girl, you don't have to use any of them though. Labels are supposed to help you describe your experiences and find a community. If their don't help you, you don't need to keep them.
Also, for your other ask, you can use "cis-by-default" if you want to, however I'd like to remind you that cis is not the default and you don't have to have a reason to be genderqueer. You can of course use the term for yourself though if you like it.
