#queuetivation

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Hi sollux, if possible. Ive been feeling really stressed out lately, and really low. I get snappy at things really easily, which isnt really like me at all. Ive felt my moods plummeting all over the place and had certain, um, dark thoughts. I really feel i need to see some sort of counsellor but i know that will never happen with my parents. do you know any online counselling things? or do you have any advice for someone like me? anyting would be really great. thank you.

2tudiie2 2how that a2 a general rule, entertaiiniing dark and viiolent thought2 ii2 not a good iidea, iif you let your2elf get 2tuck iin the2e type2 of thought pattern2 you can get your2elf worked up, and ju2t end up makiing your2elf angriier, or 2adder, or more de2perate, whiich ii2n't goiing two help wiith your 2tre22 level2.

whiich ii2n’t two say that iit’2 bad that you’re haviing the thought2 at all, iintru2iive thoughts do happen and they're not 2omethiing you can alway2 help, you just 2houldn’t encourage them, iit’2 not good for your mental health.

a great techniique for dealiing wiith them ii2 two pretend like they're 2omethiing your a22hole friiend ii2 2houtiing iin the background.

“II WANT TWO PUNCH THAT GUY IIN THE FACE!” thank you, KK, but ii don’t thiink ii’m goiing two do that.

“you could jump iin front of that car.” okay but con2iider: no.

don't let thought2 liike thii2 take root, don't let them fe2ter, when they happen, ju2t bru2h them a2iide. wiith any luck thii2 wiill help you deal wiith the poiint2 of 2tre22 iin your liife that are cau2iing them iin the fiir2t place.

haviing 2omeone two talk two would probably be a good iidea. regardiing onliine coun2elliing 2erviice2... well, all ii can 2ay riight now ii2 watch thii2 2pace.

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So I'm a trans boy but some of my friends say "you'll always be a girl to me!!" And call me she and her and my previous name and it bothers me and I can't wear my binder at the moment because my back is hurt and I'm really upset about it because I don't really feel like a boy, could I have some support from dirk?

Yeah, drop those friends. If they flat out said to your face that they’re not going to make an effort like that, they’re shit friends. They can’t call you by a different name or have the sense not to call you a girl, they don’t hang with you. Make sure they know that, and ditch them.

At the moment, you have to focus on your physical health. I’ve been told the spine is fairly important, so you should look for other things that make you feel better or more like the boy you are.

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Maybe I could have some advice from Eridan please? Lately, I just hate everything about myself, my body, my fave, my personality. How can I feel better about myself?

alright

wwhen you wwake up evvery mornin

go find a mirror or you dont evven need a mirror but think a one thin about you thats good

like all a alternia wwould die wwithout you

or your hairs really cool

just anythin about yourself

try an do it three times a day

also you should make a list a all your positivve traits an put each one on a piece a paper an put it in a jar

wwhenevver you cant think a somethin pull one out

wwhen someone says something nice to you put it dowwn

look at them as often as possible an your headll get used to bein positivve

maybe you could evven look into gettin a therapist to help out

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My family constantly makes fun of anyone who isn't cishet and im genderfluid polypan. So I'm super scared of coming out and I want to speak out against their mean words. I'm feeling really down about it all. ((Preferably Kanaya or Callie or Jane???)

This May Not Be The Best Environment To Come Out At All

Your Safety May Be Compromised If You Tell Them About Either Your Gender Or Your Sexuality

So Right Now

Presently

Coming Out May Not Be The Best Idea And I Dont Suggest It

Speaking Out Might Get You Bullied Further But If You Feel Its Needed You Should Be Careful About It

Prioritize Your Safety

You Can Work On Techniques For Dealing With Them When They Do That Such As Constructing Responses In Your Head Or Listening To Music Or Focusing On Something Else

But Be Safe

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So, I'm giving my girlfriend a CD of music that reminds me of her and I am extremely nervous- borderline anxiety attack. Any advice?

cC: o)( t)(at is so -EXCITING!

cC:I’m s)(ore s)(ell LOV-E it since it came from someone w)(o loves )(er!

cC: I t)(ink t)(e best way to clam yourself down is to practice w)(at you want to say w)(en you give it to )(er!

cC: Tell )(er )(ow you eel aboat )(er and )(ow spes)(ell t)(e songs are to you!

cC: And maybe you s)(ould make )(er a card if you're t)(at nervous aboat it!

cC: So just try to relax and give it to )(er, anon! Good luck!

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I'm apart of this online community, and a lot of the people in the group can make rather shitty jokes that trigger me. I've asked them to stop but even though they say they will, the next day I talk to them they make the joke again. Some others in the community agree with me and we asked to ban offensive humor but now I'm kinda being harassed and told that I've "over-sensitive" could Roxy or Nepeta give me some advice?

:33 < *ac pawnders why someone would k33p doing things that hurt their furriends*

:33 < they don't sound like furry good people to me!

:33 < you aren't being ofur-sensitive, you're just trying to k33p yourself from getting hurt and that is purrfectly acceptable!

:33 < if they don't stop doing what makes you uncomfurtable you should leave and find some other people who will take your n33ds into consideration!

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(Urgent!) Um, hello, my crush/best friend called me a manipulative bitch, and it really hurt my feelings and its still really upsetting me. i am not sure what happened, but it took me by surprise, and i think i just lost him as a friend. after all i've done for him, i feel like he betrayed me. i trusted him and he broke that, and i don't think i can trust anyone anymore. this isnt the first time hes done this, and i feel like hes using my fears against me. maybe im paranoid? help (Karkat please)

CG: OKAY I UNDERSTAND YOUR DILEMMA BUT I ALSO THINK YOU NEED TO LOOK AT THE WAY YOU WORDED THE MESSAGE YOU JUST SENT ME. 

CG: “AFTER ALL I’VE DONE FOR HIM,” AND TALKING ABOUT NOT TRUSTING ANYONE ANYMORE IS ACTUALLY A HUGE GUILT TRIP OR MANIPULATION TACTIC. 

CG: I’M NOT SAYING YOU’RE DOING IT ON *PURPOSE* AND I REALLY FUCKING DON’T THINK YOU DESERVE TO BE CALLED A BITCH, BUT INTERNALIZED BEHAVIORS THAT CAN INVOLVE EMOTIONAL STRAIN OR MANIPULATION ARE SOMETHING YOU MIGHT WANT TO CHECK OUT IN YOURSELF.

CG: YOUR FRIENDSHIP SHOULDN’T BE BASED ON HOW MUCH YOU’VE DONE FOR HIM. IT MIGHT BE HARD TO HEAR, BUT HE DOESN’T OWE YOU SHIT. HE MIGHT BE TRYING TO GET A RESPONSE BY USING YOUR FEAR OF LOSING HIM, OR HE MIGHT ACTUALLY NOT WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOU ANYMORE. 

CG: PEOPLE DON’T OWE OTHER PEOPLE THINGS LIKE FRIENDSHIP OR RELATIONSHIPS JUST BECAUSE THEY DO THINGS FOR EACH OTHER. SOMETIMES PEOPLE GROW APART AND IT’S FUCKING NORMAL, AND IF YOUR BEHAVIORS AREN’T COMPATIBLE ANYMORE, WELL, FUCK IT. 

CG: I KNOW I MIGHT BE SOUNDING LIKE A MASSIVE DICK RIGHT NOW, BUT SOMETIMES YOU NEED A WAKE UP CALL TO START LOOKING AT THE WAY YOU AND OTHER PEOPLE ACT, AND INTERACT.