I LOVE sub feeder X dom feedee, I've had two relationships with this dynamic irl and I DON'T miss those people but 100% miss the dynamic 😭 also sorry if this is a bit too much
One of my fave scenarios was during/after stuffing myself, I would allow my feeder to cum only by grinding against my belly, and only after I finished eating. I'd let him get all worked up playing with my fat while he waited for me to eat, and I can eat a lotttt. By time I'd finish, he'd be a total hot mess, but I'd be too full for him to properly grind into me. So, he'd be stuck whimpering in my ever-shrinking lap, poorly restraining the bucking of his hips to a very slow and gentle pace, basically edging until all the food in me settled enough for him to get off. And of course I'd be teasing him the whole time about how turned on he'd become.
Oh my god yeah, that's. Um. 😳🥵 Not too much at all. Those kinds of dynamics are like off-the-charts hot to me 😵💫😵💫😵💫 I hope you find that dynamic again in the future with people you wanna stick around with!!
glad I’m not the only one who saw the post mention “character getting fat as a moral corruption” and was like fuck yes 😳 I get the posts intention but the neuron activation for a “hot fat evil villain” was IMMEDIATE
Look 😶.....
I see that trope mentioned all the time and I always wonder about it because I don't think I've ever actually come across it myself, like I can only think of like... one? show where someone gains weight that's not a children's cartoon weight gain scene? (Bojack horseman, and that's very notably a neutral/positive representation.) And today I happened to be in a mood about it.... Like, I've seen plenty of 'mean/evil character gets fat as punishment' and mean/evil character is already fat specifically to symbolize or convey that they're bad, but I just don't remember someone becoming fat for the purpose of visual symbolism of corruption or vilification, and I am just curious want to watch so I can intellectually analyze it want to jerk off about it...
Maybe I'm just totally blanking on obvious examples though? Any help feedists of Tumblr??
Dom feedee sitting on their feeder telling them not to touch while the feedee stuffs themself, and every time the feeder touches the feedee to feel how soft or full they are, the feedee hands them a body marker and tells them to write a tally mark on the feedee's tummy. The sub feeder only gets to touch for long enough to draw the line, then hands off again. If the feeder stays under a preset number, they get a reward. Great for feeders who like to be teased - do you want to get those little touches, or do you want to wait for your reward like a good feeder?
Omg that's so good, I would be eating that marshmallow test treat immediately and covering the feedee's belly in marks, how could I not touch??
I also like numbers and I love love your number post! Wishing you the best to safely get to 300
Thanks, but the 'safely' is rubbing me the wrong way lol
Just feels like, "um, you can get fatter but just make sure you do it healthily! Because remember being fat and gaining weight is unhealthy and dangerous! I hope you can make it to 300lbs without giving yourself a shameful, scary Fatty McFatterson disease!" I know you mean well, and that I'm being a bit harsh about this, but, like, please educate yourself about medical fatphobia. @fatliberation is a good place to start with several posts about fatness and health.
Also, no, I won't get there safely, I'm still gonna stand at the edge of the pit at hardcore and skramz shows and get jumped on and bruised and hit by flying fists and microphones the whole time I'm gaining to 300, so there 😤
The words "sub feeder" have me like the Eye of Suaron, plus I'm also feeling rabidly horny today?? Something's in the water.
One of my favorite fantasies that I can't figure out how to get on page: softdom!feedee hears one (1) hint that his sub!feeder is stressed (has girlbossed too close to the sun) and takes matters into his own hands by way of a little dumbification, as a treat. It starts with subtle, simple orders like, "Baby, can you get XYZ for me?" until it slowly but surely ends up at, "I want you to order in from our favorite restaurant and feed it to me, now say 'yes, sir.'" No touching until he's finished, obviously, and not a single bite fed to him out of turn, since he wants to make this long and slow to get his feedee into a soft, woozy headspace in which he can coax them into getting on their knees for some belly (+ cock) worship. Only after taking him down their throat (while he tells them how pretty they are doing it) do they get to come, first on their feedee's hands, then his mouth, then his gut, and then his cock
AAHHH YES!!!! this exactly, stoppp 😭
Stressed feeder getting soft dommed into a dreamy subspace during a feeding sesh and then body worship topped off by multiple orgasms is like. my all-time number one favorite specific scenario you have no idea. Thank u I'm gonna be rereading this for eternity <3
YOU'VE GOTTEN SO BIG!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! 100 pounds in 14 months is SUPER impressive! I can't get over all your stunning stretchmakes
But you *certainly* aren't hiding everything you've gained as a touch of winter weight anymore. How's your wardrobe? Anything still fit from before?
Ty! 😊 I love my stretch marks too :3 It's actually 100lbs since 2021! The 14 months was about 235/240?? to 280+ now.
After gaining from 160ish to 280ish, no, I'm relatively tall at 5'10.5", but nothing at all fits from then haha. I think the oldest clothes I have in circulation are a few t-shirts that were very large on me in 2022 at ~210-220lbs, and those are reaching the end of their rope lol. I do still have a lot of clothes from when I was 160lbs to now (plus a couple size Small t-shirts from high school!) because I'm attached to the band tees and because it's hot to try them on :)
Actually, why don't I just use this as an excuse to post the quiet-admirer wg timeline lore for those who haven't been following along:
Pre-2020: in the 160s
2020-2021: up to high 210s in 9 months due to HRT weight gain/casual quasi-intentional gaining
2021-2023: paused HRT and weight remained stable
Late 2023-May 2024: went back on HRT and gained to 237lbs before top surgery in May 2024 -> -5lbs of boob = 232
May 2024-2025: Continued casual, slightly more intentional gaining up to about 250 in May 2025.
In October 2025 I went up on T and was so horny it was making me feral and rabid etc., I was like, "I NEED to get fatter," and wanted to see how much weight I could gain in a few months. I went from 258lbs to 278lbs in 10 weeks (I said 6 weeks in a previous post but I forgot how to count).
I had to pause a few times between December and now because I've been figuring out how to gain without triggering acid reflux/heart burn, and because money, but this past week or 2 I've been extremely horny again and have been trying to go as hard as I can on a budget. (I got paid today and am so brave for not ordering takeout 😔) I'm not sure where I am now, but I'd guess it could be as high at 285, although that might be a bit of a stretch guess.
For the numbers and details freaks like me, here's the timeline in detail:
Edit: I wanna do fun colors
2016-2017: stable at ~185lbs after ED recovery
2018: down to the low 160s after going on Adderall, and was stable there until 2020.
2020: gained about +5-10lbs of quarantine and eating what I wanted weight. Since late 2019 this thought progression was continually happening in two-steps-forward-one-step-back waves every couple months of "I kind of like the chubby lumberjack/bear cub look, I wouldn't mind it if I *just happened to* look like that" -> "does that mean I want to look like that" -> "Hm. But I'm not a gainer. I don't think I would like gaining weight, it would probably be triggering" -> "What if I went on T? Maybe I would like gaining if I was on T and had a different fat distribution" -> "what if I actually went on T..." (I had already been identifying as non-binary and genderfluid since 2013, so it was a genderfluidy shift thing)
Fall 2020: went on T to see if it would make me unintentionally gain weight to see if I liked being bigger (yes, that was my actual thought process, lmao, other gender stuff was secondary to 'maybe it'll make me gain weight') and gained from maybe ~170/175ish to the high 210s in 9 months. And lo and behold it was hot... I mostly gained by "leaning into" my increased appetite, experimenting with stuffing, and ridding myself of the last vestigial traces of restrictive mindsets around eating, ie, eating whatever I wanted whenever I wanted.
Fall 2021-Fall/summer 2023: went off T because I couldn't handle the acne with my BFRB* and my weight was relatively stable through that time, though might have gone up a little toward the end. I didn't take many photos of myself through this time because my fat redistributed within several months, and it made my upper belly look smaller, and I missed having it look bigger and rounder. I was a bit surprised that I was feeling disappointment looking at photos of myself after going off T.
At my top surgery consult in March-ish 2023, I weighed 217lbs.
Fall/summer 2023: went back on T because I was in a better place with my acne and BFRB (went on isotretinoin, got therapy from a specialist), because I wanted to, and because I was having top surgery in May 2024 and was suddenly like, oh shit, is my insurance going to say I have to have been on HRT for a year before they'll pay for surgery? (They did tell me at one point later that I needed to be on it for a year but I realized they were confused about the difference between masculinizing and feminizing procedures and meant I would need to be on E for year before getting breast augmentation lmao. I'm just glad my surgeon knew the difference...)
At my April 2024 pre-op appointment I was up to 237. I was kind of shocked that 20 whole pounds could sneak up on me like that 👀. Post-surgery I was 232lbs, goodbye 5lbs of G-cup boobs 👋
I continued casually gaining and "leaning into" my increased appetite on T. In 2025 I experimented with stuffing more and sometimes ordered an extra meal late at night after dinner. If I went to a show, I always stopped at the gas station to get snacks after, and I go to a lot of shows :3
By May 2025, I was up to about 250lbs, and the rest is as I said above the cut! 😊 I wanted to try to get to 280 because it's a BMI of 40 for me and I wanted to... see what that would look like, and here I am! I may have hit 281 in January, but the scale I used may have been unreliable. Last month a more reliable scale told me 126kg, which I'm rounding to 278lbs.
Now I'm out here thinking about how 300 is sooo close and 308 would be 50lbs since I started gaining really intentionally in October, and 326 would be double my weight in 2020, and 330lbs is 150kg, and.... I like numbers.... 👀
Realistically, I'd like to see what 300 looked like before the end of the year! We shall see :)
*BFRB = body-focused repetitive behavior, for me, skin-picking disorder (other types include hair pulling, nail picking/biting, nose picking, etc). It's a compulsive/sensory-seeking/regulating behavior usually lumped in as related to or a type of OCD, but according to my therapist, in his experience as a therapist it has a 100% comorbidity with ADHD and doesn't share a lot of the hallmark features of OCD, so it's his theory that it's actually an ADHD sensory stimulation and body/emotion regulation thing. The more you know!
18 (how do you want your writing to feel to your readers?) for the ask game please!
Thank u!!
I think the biggest overarching ways I'd like my writing to feel are:
Hot
Like the're coming home, feel themselves reflected, like their desires and insides are seen by someone else and catered to (in the sense that the author is indulging/catering to themselves, which also happens to cater to the reader because we share similar interests), and like they're part of/taking part in a community of like-minded people by reading and enjoying it 🖤
What's the biggest tease a gaining expositionist could do to get to a voyeur, in your opinion?
Well, everyone's going to be different. For example, a lot of people seem to be really into literal exhibitionism like tight clothes or stuffing in public, whereas that would make me anxious as hell. Some people like to see gainers or feedees really confident, others embarrassed; something food related or more weight related; acting oblivious vs making eye contact and smirking directly at u, etc. etc.... Some people don't even like to have a 'tease' or suspenseful aspect to it - I can take it or leave it tbh, sometimes I just want to get to the point and get to the horny stuff.
So the unsexy answer is you'd have to communicate to your voyeur/s first in order to know. But the fun thing about communication on the other hand is that then you know (or learn over time together) exactly what to do to push their buttons without so much trial and error 😈
It also really depends on if there is a power dynamic or not and in which direction - exhibitionism as a dom and as a sub can look very different from each other.
(Editing to add that also, especially for me who leans more submissive/passive, what's hot to me is that gainers are doing what THEY want to do and what THEY think is hot, so there isn't even something specific a gainer necessarily has to do to get to me, as long as I can tell they're getting of on it!)
But as far as the things *I* find incredibly hot (and disclaimer that I don't actually do irl feedism with anyone), in fantasy anyway are things like walking around the house in little clothing, making somebody watch as they eat or play with their fat/jerk off, watching somebody admire themselves in the mirror, taking videos of measuring and weighing themselves and posting it online for other people - basically the whole online gainer aspect is a whole category of kink/hotness in itself to me. Honestly it's debilitatingly hot coming online and seeing hundreds of people showing off how fat they're getting and stuffing their faces for thousands and thousands of online strangers and acquaintances to watch 😵💫😵💫😵💫
I think the biggest one for me though, lately anyway, is when people funnel their own gainer shakes on camera 😩 Like, it's an awkward position and it's an extreme method of gaining, but there are.. a lot of gainers and feedees that don't let that stop them - ugh that kind of desperation is just really hot to me lmao 🥴
I've had shame about it for a long time out of feeling like as an encourager or feeder you're "supposed to" provide for and care for gainers and feedees, but fuck it, man, I just love the idea of getting to enjoy the fruits of a gainer's labor, and if I'm getting really subby with it, then I'm just a number among ten thousand admirers - I'm basically irrelevant to the equation, I'm just there to be a tiny ego boost with a like or reblog, the gainer is just so desperate or intent on getting fatter that they're not waiting for somebody to do it for them. That weight is for them, by them, and I'm just privileged to get to watch it happen from afar. (Cuck me with food who said that)
But anyway... as you can see with this very niche and hyper-specific fantasy... There really isn't anything I can suggest that will be applicable to your "average" voyeur lol 😄
