If your moirail disappears, how long should you wait before deciding to move on?
That depends a lot on who you and your moirail are and how they disappeared! The upper nobility might have sweeps to waste waiting and searching for a long-lost flame, and might even find them again, but down in the mud sometimes people just disappear and there’s nothing you can do!
Make sure you’ve checked every appropriate avenue of investigation before losing hope! Ask every member of their clade, even the ones you don’t like or talk to much, just to be completely certain! Look into every recent piece of drama or gossip that’s been circulating among groups they’re part of – at hive, in their clade, and in their workplaces especially, and don’t be afraid to ask for help if you can afford the cost! Once that’s done, you might have some valuable suspicions to take to your local legislacterators or subjuggulators to try and find your lost love.
If none of that pans out, and all you’re left with is waiting? Well…. Ask yourself how the lack of a moirail is influencing your life. Can you stand waiting for them? Are there other trolls, ready and willing to help you through this tragic time, that might leave or quadrant elsewhere, if you don’t hop on the chance now? How many people will die because you aren’t being soothed (or soothing others!) properly, while you wait for someone specific to waltz back into your life?
You’re the only one who can answer this question, but when the cost of being single starts getting too high (and if you’re asking yourself this question – face it, you’re probably single now), that’s the time to start thinking about moving on. Seek help from a friend, and kindle something new, when you’re ready.
- Adjutant Bauble, TGM Social Media Team