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LMAO THAT LAST BIT IS MY PROBLEM. i need everyone i love to love it, so i'm over here like HOW CAN I MAKE THIS HAPPEN. i'm 1 for 1 so like, THE PRESSURE IS ON OKAY
Mmm yeah that’s a tough one and I’m really of the opinion that... you can’t make someone love something. You can share it with them, and you can share your love of it with them, but you can’t force it, and trying to make fetch happen when it’s not gonna happen can honestly do more harm than good.
A personal example? I hate zombies. I hate zombies, I hate stories about zombies, and no matter how much someone tells me well you’ll like this zombie thing because it has great characters or it’s well-written or whatever I’m still like uggghhh zombies no. Vampires, though, I’m more ambivalent about. I will literally never seek out vampire stories on my own, but I’ve been coaxed into liking some vampire-related things, not because my friend who loves vampires chained me to the TV and told me “You have to watch this!” but because her enthusiasm for it bled over and I decided it could be fun to see the show so we could talk about it.
My best advice would be: as hard as it may be, try to take that pressure off yourself and let it be okay if you don’t love exactly the same things. But also feel free to love it around them. If it’s relevant enough to their interests--hell, even if there are no major “nope” buttons for them--your enthusiasm may eventually pique their interest and to be perfectly honest they may be more Into It when they get into it if they don’t feel like they were dragged kicking and screaming. It can be a painful feeling when somebody is hovering over you while you watch something for the first time, needing you to react The Right Way to every line and it just isn’t landing for you. That doesn’t mean they’ll never get into it! But I think giving them the exposure and being free with your own excitement about it but also giving them some breathing room to get excited on their own is the best way to go. Again, your mileage may vary, but that’s my experience.
I love RvB and even I didn’t get into it the first time I was exposed to it. I fell down the rabbit hole when I was good and ready to and now I’m way deeper into it than the person who introduced me to it in the first place.