I'm so sorry things are so bad for you right now. I have to say, with the things you're telling me, it really sounds like you need some help. You deserve to feel good about yourself and your body. What do you think would happen if you were truthful with your mom about the questions she asked?
Also, with your uncle- that's NOT okay. Have you told an adult?
Remember that the 'other people have it worse' mindset isn't a good one. Your feelings are valid and you deserve love and respect and to feel good in your skin.
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aeylia anon
Hey Cas! I hope you're having a good day<3
For the last few months queer topics have occasionally come up when I'm talking to my dad and he's said some stuff that is borderline homo/transphobic and only in the last 2 weeks have I actually told him this.
Everytime I bring it up he gets incredibly defensive and says stuff like 'how would you even know' and it's really hard because he still says he's not homophobic and thinks he's right.
Today I was telling him something that happened at school with a bi kid and he was advocating for them and it really pissed me off that he would be so supportive (which is good don't get me wrong) but also say stuff like there shouldn't be so many genders, like a few is enough. AHSHSHSHHHA
It doesn't even effect you as a cis straight white middle class man so why the fuck do you even care.
He also said something in another argument along the lines of, why would I even bother learning about it, and this made me so mad.
Has he even considered that maybe his own daughter is probably gay???
Thanks for reading I just don't know what to do (he's also anti trump thankfully even though we don't live us the us)
-Aeylia
Ugh this is so frustrating. Honestly, next time he says something like this, try countering with logical questions. Like if he asks why there are so many genders, ask him why it matters? I think people tend to get angry when presented with a counterargument, but when they're given a question that counters their thoughts, it makes them think a bit more.
Also, I love your name! It's gorgeous!
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sustainable anon
i wish I never got that stupid gf everyone hated. i wish I would've spent more time with someone else when I had time. i wish our friendship never went to the dogs like that. i wish we were in the same class again. i wish we had the tuitions again. i wish the friend group never split up. i wish everyone got along with everyone. i wish she didn't resent me. i wish I didn't resent her. i wish that we still told eachother every little secret we had. i wish our friendship was healthy. i wish it was sustainable.i wish nothing changed. i wish we stayed best friends forever. i wish I was never jealous of the other best friend. i wish I preserved our friendship before it became this. i wish I had her back.
i miss my bsf. but she's not my bsf anymore. and she might never be. the current versions of us don't match.
Hi <3
I definitely understand the feeling of having big regrets like this. And unfortunately, sometimes you have to live with these regrets. But remember that you'll have other friendships and now you know to make different decisions in the future. I've been in this same spot- a past relationship I had REALLY affected my friendships, and I regret it still to this day. But I've rebuilt, and I have other friends now, and I know now what NOT to do.
I promise it'll get better <3
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google anon
hey cas, I hope this isn't awkward or uncomfortable
I wanred to know if you have any expiriance with antidepressants and stuff like that? Every place i googled said a diffrent thing and idk. Im afaraid for some of the side affects and how do i even explain or tell my parants i think i need them or smt to that affect, how do i tell them i know im depressed and suffer from anxiety for over 2 years at the very least? Its not my mumss fault and im also afraide to tell her bc she might think its her foult or smt when its not
i dont know why im like this
i dont to be like this
but i am
Hi!
So, I'm an advocate for antidepressants in general. I take them, they really help me, and I think if people need them, they should take them and not feel weird about it.
That being said, that's def a decision that would be made with a doctor. I'm not a professional lol. Depending on if you take anything else, preexisting conditions, etc, they may or may not be okay for you.
Yeah, some have side effects. Not usually anything major. And sometimes you have to try more than one to see an effect. But imo, if you think you have a problem, they're worth a try (if your doctor recommends them). Why go through life struggling when there's something you can try? Just remember that antidepressants aren't usually a magic cure. A doctor would explain better than me but basically depression is bc your brain can't make happy hormones, right? And the meds help you do that? But also therapy can help you address the things that make you sad, and develop coping mechanisms for when you're sad.
I hope this helps a bit!
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regular anon
- your regular anon -
Hi!! Do you have another anon name I've already given you? It's helpful if you tell me, that way I remember what we've talked about. I'm glad you're doing a bit better though! It still sounds like you're struggling a bit...do you think maybe your sister could help you get some help?
Is perfection perfect? Or is it the imperfections that make the world better? The little chip in your favourite mug, put there when it was dropped by your best friend? And the way the stars aren’t perfectly aligned? The eyelash that fell onto the rim of your glasses that you wish for forgiveness on? But then? Doesn’t that make imperfection perfect? And perfection imperfect? Do they mean the same thing? That is for you to decide love 💛 (sorry that took so long :)
