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[mogai-sunflowers]

Do you know of any gender labels that describe being a boy but not a man, or a girl but not a woman? (Or both?) I feel like "boy" and "man" are so different, as are "girl" and "woman", and I often feel like I'm partially a boy and partially a girl in addition to my other genders, but never like a man or woman.

unfortunately im not very good with term searches, maybe @genderstarbucks could help? /nf

[meadow-of-mogai-melodies]

please ping @atomic-catastrophe

A gender related to:

Being a catboy, being fem in a masc way, being a pretty boy, age/pet regression, gender euphoria, being in love in a childlike way, wanting someone to be your cg/protect you, loving your friends, cat ears, pastel colours, kandi bracelts, mlp, happy stimming and music!!!

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FINALLY QUEUED <333333 HOPE U LIKE IT!

[queer-queries]

Do you have any advice on coming out to your friends as a bi lesbian when you have no clue if theyre exclus or not? I am TERRIFIED to come out to them and I have no clue how to ask them how they feel so now I’m just afraid they’re gonna drop me over my identity..

hi friend! my general coming out advice is to test the waters- if these friends are online friends or friends who are up to date on intracommunity discourse like that, then you can ask them what they think on neutral ground, meaning don't make it seem like you're looking for them to say yes or no, just ask. one way you could do that was by saying you heard some discourse about it and are confused and wanted to ask if they knew how to explain it and what their thoughts were.

but if these friends don't know about online discourse like this and generally aren't in the online queer world that much, then there's a pretty darn solid chance that they won't care. i completely understand where you're coming from because i've struggled with the exact same thing, but i've come out as a bi lesbian to lots of irl queers who don't know about online discourse, and every single one of them has been extremely accepting and said something along the lines of "it's your identity, not mine, no one else can tell you who to be". because the reality is that the whole mindset of "valid vs. invalid" is extremely online as a mindset. for the most part, some random queer person who doesn't know shit about random online queer discourse, isn't primed to think in a binary of valid vs. invalid because that's not actually a normal way of thinking, so they're not used to it- it's just what a lot of online queers have sadly become used to.

so if they are online and know discourse stuff, then test the waters first. but if they aren't, i would just tell them that you've struggled a lot with your identity and say something like "i identify as both bi and a lesbian because it makes the most sense to me" and if they ask respectful questions, then you can do your best to answer them, but they will much more likely just be like "oh cool" because they're not used to thinking of other queer people like they're all potential enemies trying to use labels just to hurt them.

i wish you much luck anon, if you go through with it then feel free to let me know how it goes!

[narconfessions]

Not dark per se, but definitely a NPD confession that I dont feel I can share elsewhere.

I actually Do want to collect "oppression points." I like being part of marginalized groups because it makes me feel special and being the victim in situations makes brain go brr. I dont go so far as faking things to feel oppressed, but I do take pleasure in being plural/disabled/queer/trans/cluster B/autistic/a trauma survivor/etc (which I am) partly because I like feeling special.

(Disclaimer this is not to say that discrimination and hatred based on these things does not affect me negatively. I do experience and struggle with ableism and queerphobia and other things.)

i can't believe my eyes because i genuinely thought no one else felt this way and im so relieved to know im not the only one. this is tough with my severe impulsivity too because sometimes i impulsively come out in situations where i KNOW i'm not safe just because i impulsively want attention and sympathy.

i think the problem with the whole thing surrounding "oppression points" is that most often, it's just a term pulled out by marginalized people who have fallen into the trap of respectability politics, to describe people who don't fit their worldview. for example, autistic people who i've seen shit on autigender people because "IM autistic and IIIII understand gender so why can't you". and just look at the endless cycle of exclusionism within the queer community. it's always that we "just want oppression points to be special" but the whole problem in the first place is that we've made oppression out to be something special in the first place! the online world has placed a hierarchy on who is coolest and most valuable based on how many marginalized identities they have. we've created this idea that being marginalized is "cool". sure, it can be a big part of your identity but i've met so many people online who genuinely believed they were cooler and more interesting than cishets just by virtue of having a different gender modality or sexuality and i've also met so so many cishets and guys whose mental health has genuinely plummetted because they think they are not cool because they have no or very few marginalized identities and it's like. being gay or trans or nd or disabled IS cool, but it's not what MAKES YOU COOL! no one is inherently better than anyone else based on unchangeable aspects of their identity because your morality is based on what you choose and how you act, not just who you are. i'm not saying "aw boohoo white cishets are so oppressed" because that's bullshit, but i do think it's ridiculous how much we've turned marginalization into a competition of cool points. you can have as much pride in your marginalized identity as you want but you are not morally better just by virtue of being an Oppressed Person. so that's why this whole "oppression points" thing has taken off and instead of criticizing the hierarchy of oppression-based worth and value that's contributed to it, people just blame other marginalized people for being the "wrong" kind of queer or nd. there's nothing wrong with liking having multiple marginalizations and enjoying the attention from it, it's just when it becomes, like you said, something that people take as paradigm for peoples value or "coolness" and fake stuff because they think it'll make them cooler, when it's a problem like babe no! you are not a boring person just cuz you're cis or straight or nt or abled or white or whatever you have a personality and a life and a value. if people realized that they had value outside of societal checklists and boxes, then people making fun of other marginalized people for being supposed "fakers wanting oppression points" will die down. (none of this is said to invalidate you it's just my take on the nuance of the whole 'oppression points' thing.)

[auroras-kiss]

Hai

If ur taking requests could you make a aurethi-bitch gender?

I couldn’t tell if ur requests where closed so I’m very sorry if they are- feel free to ignore/gen

- @my-gender-hoard-ayi

sorry, i'm not comfortable with this one! i'll tag some other aurethi coiners though, one of them might be willing to do it for you! /info /not mad

@neopronouns @interstellarr-void @queerliom @sproutflags @revenant-coining

[accessmogai]

just so you know, plain text is supposed to not have all caps. If there's a lot of caps lock, you can paste it into convertcase (dot) net and it'll let you put it into different styles including sentence case where it'll automatically capitalize the start of sentences.

oh okay, thank you for letting me know! all the posts in my queue and the ones already posted have been editted!

[ethereal-nighttmare]

wow the second last term on your wip list is so Totally Me. like i cant even because that actually describes like, my entire source plotline it is wild

nice!!!!!

[kenogai]

why are you saying youd drop kick traumatized ppl?? kinda n bad taste imo considering ur a singlet and literally nothing you say abt systems matters

i said i would drop kick bigots. not my fault that said bigots use their trauma as a shield for accountability. im a trauma victim too. i don’t use it to shit on people who have done nothing bad to me. leave me alone lmao.