#relationship cycle

[crmsnmth]

Inside The Cold Room

I am madly in love with you, my dearest There I've said it And I can't take it back Let this be my confession I've loved you since the moment I met you The moment I got a look at those beautiful eyes the exact moment I saw from across the room

You skin was a sizzling hiss as I took your hand played it cool, kissed your fingers with grace and said the only French I know "Je ne connais pas le français" cause it sounds like I'm cultured and fuck, all I want to do now is impress you Puff my chest and whistle out mating songs taking hints of birds in the summer

whatever it is that you ask of me is what I will surely do Cause my main goal was never to blow up and act like i don't know nobody. no My goal was just to turn the corners of your mouth upright to make your bad days good days to keep this earth a-spinnin' just for you it's all for you

It's okay, my reason to breathe the reason behind my heart beat Hanging on so we can keep hanging out I'll kiss your lips a million times over and still not grow bored with their softness sating, velvet, silk? None of those hold a candle in the wind to the touch of red on red

And maybe it's just because I've already been up for days but you electrify me see those lightning bolts swallow all my veins wet the sponge before you encapsulate my head That way, I never knew who pulled the lever Plan would've worked to (if it wasn't for you kids and that mangy mutt) if it wasn't just me and you in the room

[clitdad]

The Relationship Cycle

Every relationship has a cycle…

In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a complete natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know

WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling

[pinoyincanada]

Strangers --> Friends --> Relationship --> Acquaintances 

[kapitanferr]

Relationship Cycle:

Sa una Crush Zone daw,

Sunod daw niyan eye to eye zone,

Tapos aminan zone,

Tapos daw ligawan zone,

Tapos daw relationship zone,

Tapos daw proposal zone,

Tapos daw kasalan zone,

Tapos daw Family zone.

[itsmechinny04-blog-blog]

[lalanote]

The Relationship Cycle

Proposed and written by: Kelvin Chan & WongFu Productions Date written: May 09, 2012 Finally, this note has been written.  Earlier, I promised that I would write this note soon after The Relationship Curve note.  Unfortunately, my sister and I came up with the note: Relationship Physics instead.  If you haven't read either of those two notes, I suggest you read them now!  Anyways, here is "The Relationship Cycle" just as I promised.  

Okay, so a few months back I saw a video on Youtube created by a group called WongFu Productions known as: Strangers Again (The video can be seen here). If you haven't watched it before, there are spoilers in this note!  This video kind of gave me an idea of how relationships occur in a cycle and surely have brought tears to many people who watched it.  Anyways, moving along now.  According to WongFu, most relationships go through different stages; something like this: Stage 1: Meeting An event caused by miraculous powers of the universe that results in the perfect timing of two people meeting one another. This meeting allows both people to interact and exchange phone numbers or a way to access each other's company.   

Stage 2:  The Chase Some say it's the best part (Wang. P, 2011).  This is the stage where both individuals strive to know more about each other and hang out as much as possible.  I'm sure everyone knows what "The Chase" is and I do not need to explain much more.  This stage ends as soon as both individuals officially declare that they are a couple. Stage 3: Honeymoon The stage where the couple can fully express their affection for one another.  The couple spends lots of time with each other and getting to know everything about each other.  This stage can last from weeks to months and rarely, years. Stage 4: Comfortable Now, this stage is very arbitrary.  It can be a good stage or a bad stage, depending on the couple.  It also determines the outcome or the direction of the relationship based on how the couple views the relationship.  The comfortable stage is a stage where both individuals in the relationship can truly be comfortable with each other and being themselves.  In WongFu's video, they give an example of the "comfortable" stage as being a bad one.  A bad comfortable stage typically involves one or both persons in the relationship that stops trying and the feelings become weaker.  I'll get back to this stage later on as this is a really important stage. Stage 5: Tolerance This stage only occurs when a couple has uses the comfortable stage negatively.  The tolerance stage is pretty self-explanatory and basically describes when a couple tolerates each other's vices.  Somehow the things that the couples loved about each other now turned into things that they both have to tolerate.  As Phil says: "Arguing is one thing, but feeling dissatisfied with the relationship is another." Stage 6: Downhill There's not much time left when you reach this stage.  The couple views the relationship as burden rather than a blessing and decides that it just isn't worth the time and effort anymore.  Meaningless arguments arise while older ones continue to be unsolved.  It is only a matter of time before a couple reaches the next stage. Stage 7: Break-up No explanation needed but most couples would probably want to end on good terms, which doesn't really happen most of the time. (If you STILL haven't watched the video, I REALLY suggest you do so because the description I wrote above does not do the video ANY justice.) This sums up the first part of the Relationship Cycle, if you want to keep reading, please go to part 2 → .