No Stark, No Spark
Ok Romantics (aka anyone who may have happened upon this), I went on my first date since starting this tumblr last Friday. I will give a brief synopsis of date, however a rating scale has not yet been created since I’ve been swamped this week. I am going to try my best to get a rating scale made this weekend so that we may *eventually* run correlations.
So small tip - if you are looking for someone to date IRL (not through online platforms) your local young professionals organization is a good place to try. When I moved to my current city I didn’t have many friends so I joined the local YP org to try and meet new people. Infinitely scary for introverts I know however it was this or never have anyone to eat brunch with on the weekends. Gotta have that breakfast food & champagne cocktail so I steeled myself up and prepared for the battle that is meeting new people. Since joining I have discovered that the YP org is full of single men in their 20s and 30s who are generally friendly and gainfully employed. It is from this pool of men that I found my date.
After meeting at a YP event or two, we exchanged numbers and began to text. After about 2 weeks of texting we agreed to have pizza last Friday. Here is my question - when a guy asks if you would like to get pizza on Friday night - that is a date correct?? Because I have yet to meet someone who specifies it as a date. What if he thinks we’re just friends? This unknown factor terrifies me. Life would be much simpler if people just called it straight out - no guessing.
Following a round of supportive texts from Ally I got up the gumption to attend the date.
It was fine.
I feel like that pretty much says it all. He was a nice guy, we had a nice time. There was ice cream after pizza. Between the Friday night timing, pizza parlor & ice cream shop I felt like a real 1950s sitcom. While it was a perfectly enjoyable few hours, there was no spark, no chemistry. I knew what time it was (time never flew), and eventually ended the evening to hang out with a friend. I guess he felt the same way too because we haven’t spoken since. NBD, especially because he doesn’t watch GOT. What?! While this doesn’t disqualify someone completely it certainly doesn’t help.