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[on-fic-writing-spree]

Me: I don’t like remrom. I see them as brothers and will not write something for others to romanticize my trauma with. I will not write remrom.

Remrom shippers:

[hopelessly-roman]

Remrom shippers: Come on, can't we just peacefully coexist in the fandom?

Also remrom shippers: If you have "remrom shippers DNI" in your bio/on your post, fuck you, you can't tell me what to do.

[whereisstevethestove]

A friendly reminder that the fuckers who come here asking for remrom will be blocked.

Kindly fuck off.

[land-of-frogs-and-dragons]

RemRom Survey Results

To start my analysis of the data I’ve gotten from my RemRom survey, I first want to mention that this will *not* be an accurate representation of the entire Thomas Sanders Sanders Side Fandom.

I’d say it’s a fairly safe assumption to make that no more than about five percent of this fandom cares about RemRom in any real sense; therefore, about 2.5% are Pros and 2.5% are Antis. TO BE VERY CLEAR: this is an assumption of my own, since I doubt Thomas will try and figure out the specifics for who ships (and DOESN’T ship) what in this fandom.

Based on this, my overall data is definitely skewed, which you can see with the responses I got on my “Do You Ship RemRom” question of the poll.

If this were a true representation of the entire SaSi Fandom, then 42% (60 out of 143 responses) of the fandom would ship RemRom, 15.4% (22 out of 143) are on the fence for shipping RemRom, 18.2% (26 of 143) are Neutral towards RemRom, 11.9% (17 of 143) are in-between Neutral and Anti and will be called the NOTP section for brevity, and 12.6% (18 of 143) are Anti RemRom. I’m not sure how I got so many proshipper responses, though I’d be willing to be tit had something to do with DD (@demented-dukey) reblogging my post (thank you, by the way; I really appreciate it).

Based on the above, I will not be combining all of my sections (Pros, Neutrals, and Antis) into one lump assessment of the fandom, since it just isn’t accurate to this assumption. That being said, I can assume that each overall section (Pros, Neutrals, and Antis) is a fairly accurate assessment of those portions of the fandom and will be discussed as such as we go along.

Before I go ahead and share the data for all of my sections, I wanted to go through all of the questions on the survey first. They were all identical for all the sections, but I wanted to talk about them anyways before breaking down all of the responses I’ve received. I’ll throw these under the cut, since I doubt you all want to have your dashboards clogged by this monster of a post. The results for the “who is your favorite side” question will be at the VERY END of this post, but I’ll cover all my responses to the true final question of this survey in a later post.

 The first question is, clearly, do you ship remrom. This question has five answers, all shown in the image below; however, I’ll write them here in case the text is hard to read. The first option is “No. I am very much against it-some may call be an Anti, or I may label myself as one,” and this answer took responders to the Anti Section of the survey. The next three are “No. I will go out of my way to avoid RemRom content, I don’t really want to see it” (which I will be short-handing to NOTP), “No. I am neutral towards the ship and those who ship it. I may not like it, but if it comes across my Tumblr dashboard it does not upset me,” and “Maybe. I'm curious about the ship, but I haven't gone out of my way to find (much) content for it;” these three answers took responders to the Neutral Section of the survey. The final answer is “Yes. I ship RemRom. Some may call me a Proshipper, or I may label myself as one” and takes responders to the Proshipper Section.

Looking back, I should have put the Maybes and the NOTPs into their own section; however, at the time of creation, I felt that they fit better into the Neutral Section, as they were neither a Proshipper nor an Anti. Moving their answers into their own sections won’t happen for the sake of this survey, as it’s a hassle to do. However, I will make my data available for everyone if others wish to undertake this task.

 The second question that greets everyone is: How do DNIs (Do Not Interacts) apply towards RemRom Shippers on Tumblr? The options on this one were: “DNI's for Remrom usually apply only to Proshippers. If you ship Remrom, do not interact,” “DNI's for Remrom usually apply to Proshippers and those that support Proshippers, even if they themselves do not ship RemRom,” “DNI's for Remrom are evenly split between the above,” and “I do not have a Tumblr / I do not know.” Responders could only select one of these options. I added the not having a tumblr option here, since I figured that the survey may get spread to discord servers, and that people there may not have tumblrs. I forgot to add this to other questions (and realized it about 60 answers in, which at that point would feel like skewing my results more by tweaking that), but I’ll mention them when we get there.

 The third question was “why do you think people ship RemRom?” This was a select all that apply question. There were many options here, including an “other” option to add your own or supposed own reasons for shipping it, but all the options can be found on DD’s post about the topic. I just want to add for the “Remus would ship it” answer to this: my apologies to any Remus kinnies I may have caused harm to. This answer was addended to include a disclaimer about hallway through my getting people taking this survey, as I received word that this answer was possibly triggering.

 The fourth question was why should people not ship RemRom. This question was a select all that apply question. This one also had an “other” option.

 The fifth question was “in your opinion, what is the best way to avoid any and all remrom content on tumblr?” and the sixth question was “whats the best way for those who ship RemRom to share it on tumblr so that those who don’t like it can’t see it?” These were “select all that applies” questions, and has an “other” option.

 The seventh question was “Is there any acceptable form of RemRom content?” This question was multiple choice.

 The eighth and ninth questions were “Do you think that the RemRom discordse on Tumblr has gone too far?” and “Please explain your thoughts on the above question.” For question 8, I did not put a “no opinion / do not have a Tumblr” option because I didn’t think to add it until 80 responses in, and at that point it would have skewed the data.

 The tenth question was “Who was your favorite side?” On top of all the sides, extra options are Thomas himself because he TOTALLY COUNTS and also Remy because, while a fanon side, he ALSO COUNTS. And yall can fight me on that one. The final question was a “Final thoughts for this survey” question, which was a free response for everyone. Not everyone answered it, but I know for a fact that DD did because DD signed their Final Thoughts Response.

The favorite side of those who took the survey was... Janus!!! Second favorite was Remus, third was Logan, fourth was Roman, fifth was Virgil, sixth was Patton, and Thomas and Remy tied for last place.

[iiamtrashqueenii]

Hey guys @thebewilderer wants to say tagging mentions of remrom as remrom is rude so yeah feel free to block this remrom supporter :) I’m about to too

If fuckers like these don’t interact, I wouldn’t make so many fucking posts about it. But people don’t ever wanna fucking listen so :)

[thisaccisdead]

So... I feel really awkward sending this ask and I’m sorry in advance if it makes you uncomfortable. Shipping imo does not mean that you think a relationship is “cute” or healthy, all it means is that you think it’s interesting to explore. I am personally of the opinion that people can ship what they want as long as they aren’t attacking anyone. Don’t like a ship, don’t read it. I do love your art, but if you still want me to dni I’ll stop liking and reblogging.

see that's the thing anon--i understand that there are edge cases of ppl who use shipping in ways like this, but in general use shipping has come to mean liking 2 characters in a relationship. I am not trying to say you can't make art abt dark topics, art with bad, unhealthy relationships---you absolutely can, and it can often be important content for some ppl!----but when you do that, it has to be properly tagged, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY cannot be glorifying those themes in any way!! It cannot romanticize those topics. I know i keep repeating this but please.

You could give everyone who ships incest the benefit of the doubt and & say "oh they just explore dark themes while also making it clear that it's bad." But the truth is everytime ive seen incest shippers accouts they...ship incest. Just ship in the normal way, not some alternate special meaning. And that IS HARMFUL because they normalize incestous relationships, they say incest is OK, and EVEN if they think "oh its only ok in fiction bcuz thats not real"---ficition affects reality!! It consciously AND SUBCONSCIOUSLY affects ppls views!!

Saying "just ship what you ship, i dont care!" is fine until you're complacent in people making content which can harm not only others, but also probably themself in the end!!

This is the last time i wanna clear this up today--DNI if you disagree with this. Just leave. Block me. I am not comfortable with you being here.

[hydra-collector]

friendly reminder for remrom shippers to PLEASE get off my blog

[sandersidesnsfw]

So you tell RemRom shipper to stay of your blog, but you reblog a post from like the main RemRom shipper (demented-dukey)? Maybe check who you reblog from

I have them fucking blocked, what the actual fuck tumblr- I hate this fucking site.