passive-aggressive
Criticizes and judges from the sidelines
Is condescending and superior
Is threatened by honesty and directness
Swings between idealizing and devaluing him-/herself and others
Denies and dismisses others’ feelings
Cultivates a public image sharply different from his/her private behavior
Identifies as a victim
Is cynical and sarcastic
Makes unreasonable demands
Turns your problems into his/her dramas
Belittles and blames
Exploits and/or attacks others’ vulnerability
Is reactive to questioning or criticism
Plays on sympathies
Fakes or exaggerates illness/injury for attention
Withholds and stonewalls
Gaslights
Avoids introspection and lacks self-awareness
Uses platitudes in place of genuine insight
Denies own anger
Focuses on unfairness
Is envious and vengeful
Prefers to remain behind the scenes
Gossips
Triangulates
Holds a grudge
Needs reassurance
Is inattentive or annoyed when others talk
Has double standards
Hates to lose
Fixates on others’ problems and misfortunes
Flatters and fawns to win favor
Displays rage and contempt in private
Crosses normative boundaries and codes of conduct
Pokes, prods, and pries
Feels special through association
Feels above the rules
Uses guilt and shame to control and punish
Expects care-taking
Conducts smear campaigns
