It took me years when I was younger to realize and make connections about things I needed to change about myself because I was too stubborn and always wanted to have some sense of control, to feed my ego, until it burst in my face and I had no choice but to confront myself from within, sit with myself and realize the things I was doing to others and how I treated others, I am still working on it everyday, it can be very difficult to face the truth about ourselves, but if we never change, if we never realize what we do and how we treat others, we will be stuck between a rock and a hard place, it's easy to realize it and apologize but changing takes work, discipline and rightful action and mindfulness, I am just saying all of this out of love and care. We all should take the time to realize how we make others feel, and put ourselves in others shoes / situations before judging or before speaking on behalf of, when it doesn't concern us. Take a walk out of yourself to look at yourself from all angles, you'll break the shackles of illusion.