So, I've decided to keep track of how many people ghost me. Not going to get into specifics (i.e, usernames, ect), but I will get into details about what happened in the last conversation.
The first time I got ghosted, I was VERY new to omorashi Tumblr / roleplaying omorashi in specific. This was my first roleplay partner ever, and I had literally tried to roleplay with myself before this, and it was too hard. We talked for a day, I went to sleep around 2am my time, and then I woke up excited to roleplay. They don't reply for a bit. I think, "oh they must be busy" and they DON'T REPLY TO ME. At all.
I'd gone through the effort the previous night of talking over a plot with them (and bonding with them, I'd say?), making. a discord server, INVITING THEM TO THE DISCORD SERVER, and then writing the plot. They didn't reply. I eventually gave up, blocked them on discord and Tumblr and just moved on after about a week of seeing them flash online / offline on discord.
THE SECOND TIME, I had met somebody again. I made it very clear as to what my boundaries were, what my kinks were, ect. This was a time before I'd put my kinks and boundaries on my pinned post, so yeah. They told me they were okay with my boundaries, I ask them for their discord and they stop replying. Then they proceeded to go on a roleplay anonymous ranting blog about HOW THEY 'FELT BAD' for ghosting me but said it'd feel awkward if they just blocked me.
The third time was actually the most recent (as of me making this post, anyways.) We talked, bonded, I made the discord with the intent to actually roleplay the next day, (because when I'd messaged them, it was 2am. we actually shared the same timezone too, which was funny.) We actually had two mutual friends! One of our mutual friends messages me about work being hectic so they're going offline for a bit -- which I understand. I go to message this friend, and you can guess what happened.
they'd blocked me. On discord, on Tumblr and unfriended + (presumably) blocked me on steam.
I don't understand why people do this. it's more than okay to say "hey I've changed my mind in roleplaying, sorry!" and then moving on. At least id get some peace of mind. I'm autistic, and sometimes I have a habit of overly-messaging new friends, especially when we share an interesting (a fandom, most likely.)
If you don't want to roleplay, JUST TELL ME. I won't get upset at all, don't worry -- and if anything I'll be understanding. I just find it so annoying when I add someone, we bond, and we never end up roleplaying because they've changed their mind, and instead of telling me, they just block me.
It's genuinely so infuriating. Half the time we don't even START a roleplay, and it's incredibly demotivating. I don't expect you to be online and replying 24/7 365, but at least tell me you changed your mind or something? like oh my god
what doesn't help even more is how NICHE genshin impact seems to be in the Tumblr RPC. Do people think that I make roleplay friends to not roleplay?
can you tell I'm upset at this. lol.
