I used to have a friend in college who, when I told her I thought I was asexual, she responded by saying she thought she was demisexual because she’d never had feelings for anyone before (despite being 10/10 gorgeous and having a lot of friendships with guys who liked her - just to strengthen the point that demisexual/aspec people aren’t “desperate ugly people”). We’d been friends for almost ten years and it was comforting to find something new in common with each other.
When she got her first boyfriend the next year at uni, she turned around to me one day and told me I just “hadn’t met the right person” and that I was “basically straight, really”.
Out of all my friends, I thought she would’ve been able to understand what I was going through. How hard it was to have had multiple romantic relationships fail because I couldn’t “put out” in time for anyone
