#romanticattraction

[teklatch]

[lgbtsupport]

hi! so i’m questioning my sexuality a bit. i identify as queer or bi but my feelings for guys are different. i mean even sometimes with girls i don’t know if i’m sexually attracted to them. i find them cute but w/ guys i just wanna friendship sorta thing. i’m not 100% sure w/ girls tho. on top of that i’m nonbinary so like i’m confused 😔

Hi,

If you want to identify as just queer then that’s totally fine and valid! You don’t need a label for other people to understand you, you should have a label that makes you feel comfortable.

You could be bisexual or you could just be aro or ace. If you just feel aesthetic or visual attraction to either gender (or more specifically women in your case) then that would most likely make you asexual.

You may also identify as gynoromantic which is a person who is romantically attracted to females or people that are more feminine alligned. At the end of the day if you feel queer is a good label for you then by all means use it, and don’t feel the need to change it for the sake of others.

Confusion about our gender(s) and sexuality is all part of the journey to self discovery, so there’s no need to feel bad about it. And the great thing is that we can change our labels any time or as often as we like!

If you have more questions don’t hesitate to ask!

- Lola

[queer-all-year]

Have you heard of the split attraction model? 🤔 Read more about terms like homoromantic on QueerUndefined.com . #homoromantic #HomoromanticBisexual #HomoromanticAsexual #SplitAttractionModel #RomanticAttraction #lgbtq #lgbtpride #HomoromanticPride #lesbian #gay #bi #trans #queer #questioning #labels #queeridentity #lgbtqlabels #lgbtqidentity #RomanticIdentity #RomanticOrientation #bisexual #asexual #asexualspectrum https://www.instagram.com/p/BwLFgfyB7fd/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1g208v4tjy1d0

[quiltbpag-any]

I created this scale related to lgbt+ people, because I think that most of the scales already existing (like the Kinsey scale) are pretty reductive, and rarely cover attraction to non-binary identities and the ace spectrum along with the other (mainstream) orientations. So, if you think this one is accurate, it would be a huge thing to help me to popularize it. 

I have the portuguese version [here].

To access the links, you can read further or download the PDF version [here]

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Spherientations scale: a romantic and/or sexual orientations’ scale

Created by Anilyan

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The spherical scale: presentation of a translucid sphere that locates certain orientations in points. It considers the orientations and the relations between them contemplated in the following pages.  

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Relations between orientations

Opposition:

bi/pan and cetero

hetero and homo

fin and min

a and zed/alo

- it’s implied that the surface of the sphere represents attraction, and the center, lack of it. In between we have grey areas.

Overlapping:

bi/pan - someone who likes all genders can identify as bi, pan or both. Or other m-spec labels [reasons to pick bi or pan].

Similarities: 

hetero/homo/fin/min – attraction towards one gender (mono)

hetero/homo/min/fin/bi/pan – included attraction towards binary genders

bi/pan/fin/min/a/homo/cetero – lgbt+ attractions

bi/pan/a/cetero – non-mono attractions (m-pec and a-spec)

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Handy definitions:

Hetero – attraction towards opposite/different gender

Homo – attraction towards same/similar gender

Fin – attraction towards femininity/feminine identity, by a non-binary person

Min – attraction towards masculinity/masculine identity, by a non-binary person

Bi – attraction towards more than one gender (two, all, or a nr in between)

Pan – attraction towards all genders / regardless of gender

Cetero – attraction towards non-binary people. Don’t use in problematic ways!

Zed (community name) / Alo (medical name) – umbrella to any of the above, feeling attraction

A – lack of attraction

Grey – between A and Zed

Worth noticing:

You only use labels if you want to.

Everyone defines their label differently. For nuances and problematics, check @Ash Hardell [material].

[mcmxcviii1998]

(Part 2) When I was younger I thought I was bi because of my lack of attraction for guys and girls. But *TMI alert* - the identity didn’t feel right because I was considering it in its entirely include sexually and I figured if I was ever gonna do something sexual it would be with a guy. But is that just heteronormativity speaking? I always figured I was heteroromantic bc I could imagine myself in a relationship with a guy because of a “potential crush” and celebrity crushes…but at the same time I can l sorta imagine myself in a relationship with a girl but only if I know that (in terms of TV shows and movies) the character likes girls…but is that just media’s influence or me thinking it’s cute or something? On the 1-10 sexuality scale with 1 being hetero and 5 being bi I’d place myself as a 3. But then tbh I’ve always been drawn to female characters throughout my life like I’d literally watch movies and TV shows for that one character…but do I like them or wanna be them or is it just aesthetic attraction or admiration? But I’ve certainly noticed I’ve got a type of girl that I’d start to like/admire/is awesome. But maybe I’m just now noticing girls because I’ve been overthinking this? But then I know this girl who is just very aesthetic like how doesn’t someone even look that good. And the fact that she knows who I am and we’ve had convos and stuff is like woah. But romantically I can’t picture it. Like I guess I’ve always thought bi as being equally attracted to so that’s not the case but then I saw this post about it simply meaning attracted to more than one gender and then I’m like yeah…maybe…Idk 🤔😐🙃

[mcmxcviii1998]

(Part 1) *sigh* so I’m back to thinking about my romantic orientation again 😔 No matter how many times I tell myself it’s not important at the current time the thought keeps popping back up. So I’m debating if I’m hetero or biromantic…or if I experience romantic attraction at all? Because wanting and feeling/experiencing are two very different things. I’m pretty sure I’m demiromantic but then I don’t know and unfortunately I won’t know till I find someone romantically attractive I mean the only thing that comes close is “potential crushes” like I feel like I could potentially develop a crush on them if I got to know them better…continued in next post

[lornaravenbelle]

My father continues to tell me what a horrible haircut I have and how much he hates it. So have a picture of me not caring. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE GAY TO HAVE AN AMAZING HAIRCUT. Not that #sexualorientation or #romanticattraction have ANYTHING to do with #genderidentity or #genderexpression . #panromantic #panpride #personal #manbun #undercut #demiwoman

[quiltbpag-any]

Tipos de atração | romântica

Desejo de se envolver romanticamente com alguém, sem implicar necessariamente contacto físico ou envolvimento sexual, mas frequentemente acompanhada de atração platónica. Gostar de alguém. Cada pessoa percepciona como romântico (tanto sentimentos como gestos) coisas diferentes.

Related words: amor, encontros, beijos, namoro, casal, relacionamento, gostar

A atração romântica funciona como um espectro. Há quem a sinta, e há quem sinta parcialmente ou com pouca frequência (Grey-românticos, sob o guarda-chuva dos Arromânticos) e quem não a sinta de todo (Arromânticos no extremo do espectro). De entre as pessoas que sentem pelo menos a mínima atração romântica, podem senti-la em relação a diversos géneros. Aqui estão algumas das atrações românticas mais comuns [ver mais prefixos nos vários álbuns sobre sexualidades, uma vez que são os mesmos]:

Heterorromântica: Pessoa que sente atração romântica pelo género oposto. A label também é usada por algumas pessoas não binários que sentem atração por um género E/OU sexo diferente do seu.

Homorromântica: Pessoa que sente atração romântica pelo próprio género. A label também é usada por algumas pessoas não binárias que sentem atração por um género E/OU sexo igual ao seu.

Birromântica: Pessoa que sente atração romântica por dois ou mais géneros, ou por dois sexos (reparem que “2 sexos” não coloca restrições em termos de géneros, apesar de invalidar um pouco pessoas trans e genderqueer). Não necessariamente só dois, não necessariamente todos os géneros, não necessariamente homens e mulheres, não necessariamente o próprio e outro.

Pan + Polyromântica: Pessoas que podem ser incluídas sobre o guarda-chuva birromântico ou pelo menos multirromântico, mas decidi separar para validar que são identidades distintas [porquê optar entre bi ou pan]. Panrromânticos sentem atração romântica por todos os géneros (também dito: "independentemente do género"), e polirromânticos sentem-na por vários os géneros.

Arromântica: Pessoa que não sente atração romântica, podendo ou não sentir atração sexual [como dito antes, esses dois conceitos são independentes].

Demi + Grey-romântica: Pessoa que sente raramente, ou sob circunstâncias muito específicas, atração romântica. Demirromânticos incluem-se nisso, pois eles só sentem atração romântica por alguém de quem sejam mesmo muito próximos.

[Veja o significado de crush]