#roughousing

[ghoulfriendfangs]

Kinktober Day Twenty - Julian and Roughousing

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

     You pushed Julian against the wall, and he whimpered. “Dirty little dog. You think I wouldn’t notice you breaking in again?”

     “W-well, I had thought you’d be asleep,” he explained.

     “I was. Until you, my darling, woke me up.” Julian gulped and mumbled an apology.

[stormynighty]

I'm in this groupchat and killer requested that I drew him and horror and cross suggested I drew cats so uh I CATIFIED THEM HEHE and yes these are they're cannon designs for the cat sans!! Horror may be simplfied in the future however lol!!

But killers roughousing his main-coon friend.

Also Horrors missing skull & missing eye has turned into just one big scar! the scar gouged his eye out and caused brain damage without me needing to go into heavy gore!

[sifugg]

@movisionmovement la chamaillerie est une partie importante du Mouvement Naturel #mouvementnaturel #movnat #movelikeahuman #roughousing #chamaillerie (à Méthode de Mouvement Naturel)

[yourmyheroocdemia-blog]

Ladies and gents i present to you my pet chicken nugget Beaky.

[freestyleyogaproject-blog]

Hey - Adam Magee! Is this it? www.freestyleyogaproject.com [email protected] #freestyleyogaproject #fypofficial #movement #dynamicyoga #adammagee #wrestling #grappling #roughousing #escape #squid (at Freestyle Yoga Project)

[amamastouch]

Toddler Massage: What’s it all about?

Today I wanted to talk more about massaging toddlers well past those first mobile months all the way up to school age and why its such an amazing, rewarding and worthwhile activity.

Touch remains your child's first language well into the preschool years and even as an adult there are some circumstances where nothing speaks more to us than a sincere embrace. Learning ways to use nurturing touch as part of your parental toolkit can help in times of intense emotion and aid you in either harnessing that energy or helping to calm your little one down. In practical terms massage can help calm a child and manage a tantrum or emotional meltdown, encourage your child to open up and talk about their emotions or emotional situations, stop them from being too overwhelmed during intense periods of play and also encourage them to wind down to sleep either at naptimes or bedtime.

In this blog post I wanted to go through a few scenarios and give you an insight into how massage can help

Using massage for "time-in" following a tantrum/meltdown

If your toddler becomes overwhelmed by big emotions which they find it hard to understand and process then "time-in" allows them time to use you as an emotional bolster to support them and teach them how to cope with feeling angry, sad, frustrated, excited etc. When your child requires physical reassurance and has calmed down enough for you to be able to talk about how they feel, combine a comforting hug with some gentle massage strokes on their back. Once fully calmed this could progress into a simple massage which can either distract from the situation or encourage them to talk about it depending on what is needed at the time. This can be as simple as drawing smiley/sad faces on their backs and getting them to tell you which one best applies to how they feel, or distracting them by driving a car on a mundane journey around their back (a firm favourite in our house: we drive the journey to preschool and walk fingers around her back to get out and go to the shop, stop at the drs etc).

Using massage during playtime

Massage isn't just something we can use to help our toddlers wind down and relax but can be used in conjunction to songs, stories and poems. I have made up massages to most of my toddlers favourite story books, drawing the stories across her back and getting her to join in with what comes next, actions or guessing games. We like to use massage to aid our physical play and rough housing to stop our toddler from making that all too easy transition from excited to overwhelmed and emotional.

Use of massage in scenarios like those described above is becoming widely recognised as an important tool not just for parents but also for older children in primary schools. The Massage for Schools Programme which uses basic techniques and principles such as those described here has been shown to improve concentration, improve peer inclusion, reduce bullying and improve emotional health.

If you would like to give toddler massage a go always remember the below key principles:

Always ask permission. Never massage your child without their consent. Remember by allowing them to have full control over when and where they are massaged we are teaching them important lessons about body ownership, consent and "good" & "bad" touch.

Allow your child to be in control over how clothed they are. Allow them to decide their limits and massage over cloths should they choose so.

Allow your child choice of where to be massaged. They may feel uncomfortable being massaged in certain areas of their body, again let them have control and adapt your massage appropriately.

Most importantly enjoy! Our little ones grow up so fast and being close to them is a joy!

If you'd like to know more about Toddler Massage courses or would like to reserve a place please visit our toddler massage page or email [email protected]