Happy New Year! So I'm behind on TVD lately but there were people going on how very out of character Bonnie was this season and I was so angry at the moment at the writers but tbh, it's just what I heard and not what I saw. So could you please tell me some positive things on Bonnie this season?
So I reeeeeally disagree with the people saying that Bonnie is OOC this season. She has changed as a character, so if they’re expecting her to keep acting like the person she was before her transformative time in 1994, then yeah, they will probably be disappointed. But personally, I think the changes are more than necessary and have really done a lot to allow Bonnie to thrive as a character in her own right, rather than constantly being relegated to a plot-device role.
The Bonnie that we’re seeing now is grappling with what it really means to stand on her own feet and to live for herself while still facing the same pressure she always felt to sacrifice her own needs and instead help everyone else with their problems all the time. Take for example how she was roped in by Alaric (who really manipulated her emotionally to get her to help him against her better judgment), but snapped at him about all the other things she could/should be doing to have fun on Halloween. It’s a small thing, but it helps us to understand where her mind is and how that’s different from before.
Last season, we saw her symbolically shed those past burdens/ties, but as in real life, such transformations are rarely easy or straightforward, and it makes sense that Bonnie is currently in a process of trying to find a balance.
So in this season, we’re seeing her figuring out who she is as a person and what she needs, and part of that is her projecting those same struggles onto the people around her. Hence, we’re seeing her play relationship guru to a lot of other (sometimes random, lol) characters.
There were a couple of episodes where I couldn’t quite pick out her storyline, and it felt like she was headed back to plot device territory, but 7x09 really started putting the pieces together where Bonnie’s arc is concerned. This season is about Bonnie learning how to be selfish in ways that she hadn’t even considered before, especially in the romantic arena.
Bonnie of seasons past very clearly associated self-sacrifice as the ultimate display of love. But now she is learning how to show/want/demand a love that gives as much as it takes. We’re still only seeing hints of it at this point, with Bonnie telling Enzo that he deserves better than to be desperately in love with someone who doesn’t care about him, with her telling Nora that she deserves better than to pine after someone who makes choices that hurt her.
And then in 7x09 we see Nora telling Bonnie that sometimes it’s nice to have love that validates you, that centers on you, selfishly. And we see Bonnie really considering her words, seemingly very affected by them.
So yeah, I’m excited for where Bonnie’s character is headed this season. It’s a subtler shift in character than what we saw in s6, but it’s just as crucial, especially since it seems to be pointing her in the direction of the kind of epic love story that she’s been frustratingly excluded from in the past.