Hey, Mr. Badge, can I ask you about fandom etiquette? Back in probably the early seventeenth century, when I used to write fic, I would sometimes get emails of people who read them in random geocities fanfiction pages, and it was pretty easy to answer them all, because I'd get maybe one email every week. Now I'm back in this writing thing, on AO3, and I got so many comments, I'm so happy! But I can't answer them all? Should I answer them all? Am I being mean if I don't? What to do?
I have tried, several times throughout my fannish life (which is now well more than half my actual life) to respond to every comment I get. And all it did was stress me out and fuck me up and take a shitload of time I could have used to write.
And honestly, every time I’ve brought this up with my readers, they’ve said “You know we weren’t really looking for a reply, right?”
Obviously this applies mostly to comments that are just like OMG I LOVED IT, but I think a vast majority of people, unless they’ve asked a question or brought up a discussion point, aren’t expecting a response. And in some ways, responding to a series of comments with a cookie cutter (”Thank you!”) or similar can be a bit insulting. They know you read and liked their comment, they don’t need you rubberstamping it. :D
So yeah, I don’t respond to comments that don’t seem to need it. About once a week (usually Thursday or Friday) I go through my AO3 inbox and I do three sweeps:
Sweep one: I re-read, enjoy, and then gently clear out all the comments that obviously don’t need a response. If someone has left comments on a lot of fics at once, even if they don’t need a response, I usually respond thanking them for all their comments.
Sweep two: I re-read, respond to, and then gently clear out all the comments that either A) I wanted to respond to or B) needed a response but not a complicated one.
Sweep three: I re-read and attempt to respond to especially long or complex comments. Admittedly I don’t get to this every week, because sometimes I cannot brain, but I do my best.
It’s a system that has worked well for me, and more importantly it’s consistent, so anyone who DOES want a response should be able to see a pattern in how I answer comments. I think as long as you have a systematic method of responding or not responding, nobody feels hurt.












