#secretlyengaged

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The secret couple, having not told us yet, take their first ride together as an engaged couple on the Barbosa Polar Express. Our yearly tour of the neighborhood on my dads mobile bar to see the Christmas lights. #secretlyengaged #polarexpress #christmas #familytraditions #christmaslights #blastingchristmasmusic #funtimes

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I love my future in-laws

And I feel beyond lucky being able to say that. Rob just reminded me to text his mom every so often because "[his] family likes to hear [I'm] okay and doing well" and " honestly it is really surprising because they have never been this way with anyone". If things go as planned, this Christmas is going to be a great one. He might fly into my town, have an early Christmas with my family, then we'll fly or roadtrip down to see his family for real Christmas. Honestly, I don't care where we are or what we're doing, I'm really excited to spend time with my future husband. We already act like a married couple, now we just need the paperwork to prove it. Also, we might get married once he's done in Japan. He'll get out of the barracks and start to get settled somewhere (please please be in San Diego) and I'll get to use some of the new benefits to help pay for school and any extra wedding expenses. I know he wants to get married soon, so this might be the best we can do (which means a year and a half to go).

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Inspiration

http://eventsbyevelynn.com/blog/grape-soda-and-adventure-book/

http://www.pinterest.com/anchoredingod/up-wedding-ideas/

http://www.weddingchicks.com/2010/07/21/disney-pixars-up-the-wedding/

http://www.weddingchicks.com/2011/12/01/disney-pixars-up-wedding/

http://www.weddingchicks.com/?s=pixar

http://www.weddingchicks.com/2013/05/28/colorful-diy-wedding/

http://www.yelp.com/biz_photos/town-country-studios-pismo-beach?select=Zn00lqLQBgATStI3hFGEXg#CRNwnG-FWznQg2qMHiwNSw

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Now my parents know too

He called my dad last night and from what I've heard, it went really well. So we're all good! I'm so glad this is working out like it has so far. Now I can openly talk about it while I'm home on spring break and show them what I've done so far and get some stuff figured out and straightened out.

And now everyone will be on the same page when his parents and mine meet in May when I move back home! Only 2 more months until I'm done with school here and I can get on with planning and organizing my thoughts and things.

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I had dinner with my fiance's parents earlier today.

And they love the idea, which I'm thrilled about.

They brought a notebook entitled "The List" so they had a place to take notes while we talked. They used it once to write down the date I picked.

With my handy dandy binder already filled with stuff and my excel spreadsheet of a budget, needless to say they were rather impressed.

They said they'd pay for my bouquet, the rehearsal dinner, and I think something else, following the traditional finances behind weddings.

It felt so good getting all of this out in the open. Keeping secrets from people who really should know tears me apart inside and I don't always handle it very well. 

While we were at dinner, my dad called to update me on my birthday plans with my sister (oh yea, my birthday is next Thursday, on the 6th). Turns out my sister won't be flying out, but instead they are all driving down and meeting me in Anaheim to go to Disneyland together. Which means this is a pretty good time to tell them. Both his and my parents will be meeting in May so it'd be better to get them all on the same page before then.

I still can't believe this is happening

  Notes to myself:

It’ll be any old wedding. It can be blessed by the Catholic church later if we decide to do so. We don’t have time to go through the process necessary beforehand anyway.

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The secret is out

His parents know.

They found out yesterday after they took me out to lunch for my birthday (it's not my birthday yet though, by the way) and I mentioned looking for a venue and starting planning. The entire table got really quiet. After they dropped me off, I guess his mom called and interrogated him, so he just told her. Then she turned to his sister, asking how long she knew, which was almost from the beginning.

So yea, now I have help and no it's not a secret anymore, at least with his family.

Which means I have to come clean to my family relatively soon so there aren't any surprises come May when everyone is going to meet.

Now I don't really know what to do. I'm bad at asking for help and don't want to get in anyone's way or step on anyone's toes

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Updates, December 2, 2013

While I was home for Thanksgiving break, I wanted someone to ask about the promise ring I was wearing on my left hand ring finger. No one did. So on the last day I was in town, I showed it to my mom and told her I was going to say I was engaged if anyone asked. She said she wouldn't be surprised if I was (little does she know...). They like him. While we were at dinner that night, she set it up so I could play the trick on my dad. He was equally calm about it all. I wasn't expecting them to be so okay with the situation. All my dad said on the issue was that he has to talk to Rob now. He plans on asking for my hand, and I think he's going to use one of my friends from back home to help (the only friend from back home he knows, actually). That, or he's asking for help in the official proposal. I guess I'll find out when it happens.

When my mom asked more about the situation, like "Do you see this ending in marriage?" and "How soon would you want this to happen?" my answers were *nod* and "I want to finish school first". She liked the second answer. However, with the past week with him having just left the country, I've really missed him. If we eloped now, I could get on his orders and move to Japan to be with him. But that still leaves me with the school situation. I want to get a degree, any degree at this point, here in California. And as quickly as I can so I can go live with my best friend, but still make a name for myself instead of becoming a stay-at-home mom.

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Update on things

Apparently this isn't much of a secret anymore.

He told everyone in his platoon that we're engaged.

The entire platoon knows.

He can't be trusted with many secrets. They won't be secrets for long.