Your perspective on what makes for a *good* marriage will impact your real-life marriage in profound ways. If you believe you can "find" the ideal marriage, you will grow hopeless if/when you realize that yours isn't perfect. Instead of looking for ways forward, you'll look for ways out. Most will acknowledge that marriage takes work. However, when it's time to do the work we can be so quick to give up... because real work is hard. It's when things get difficult that your true beliefs show. Here's the thing: every marriage gets challenging at some point. Every. Single. One. The contrary perspective is this: you can't find a good marriage, you make one. You enter your union with clear eyes, knowing that your spouse can't be perfect... that you won't be perfect yourself. This starting point acknowledges that you need plentiful grace, forgiveness, and... work, to create a healthy, Christ-centered marriage. This is why we will relentlessly point couples to Christ. How can you forgive when it's hardest if you've never experienced radical grace yourself? How can you love when your spouse is unlovable if you've never encountered God in His awesome holiness (perfect, set-apart)... and received His love despite your imperfection? How can you stand strong in your identity if your identity relies on anything that can fail? Only Jesus can give you an unshakeable identity through his love, forgiveness, and grace. That's why we will keep pointing couples to Christ. May you and your spouse make your marriage incredible by standing firm on Christ through every season. Stay fierce, Ryan & Selena P.S.🚨🚨🚨If you're not aware, our latest book, See-Through Marriage releases in ONE WEEK! Make sure to pre-order to get the bonus items. Details at https://SeeThroughBook.com . #seethroughmarriage https://www.instagram.com/p/B_is0f8j-mw/?igshid=1j0jghax040tf