#selfcareseries2018

[christelguillen]

#truth Once I got over the disappointment of realizing blaming others for my feelings was only an indication of my own need for healing, I became intent on learning the nature of my thoughts and behaviors by observing my own life. If things are smooth, I'm meeting great people, feeling good, in the creative zone, then this is an indication that I am caring well for my mind, body, and soul. However, when shit starts hitting the fan, no one does what they're supposed to, everything starts breaking and falling apart (so it seems), this is an indication of imbalance. It is up to me to stop and do research on myself to determine the source. Is it a negative thought pattern? Have I been consuming low energy (food, music, conversation, etc)? Have I been resentful, blocking my heart? If I am quiet and do this with myself lovingly, the answer always comes. I can then slow down, get organized, and reset. Really, I could stand to do this every morning but eventually I'm forced to so it always gets done. 💜☯️#selfcareseries2018 #selfcare #selflove (at Washington, District of Columbia)

[christelguillen]

One of the most caring things I can do for myself is to have time in the morning to reset, be grateful for life, and set positive affirmations for my day. Simple changes like this can really change (or in my case, save) your life. 🙌🏾💜#selfcareseries2018 #selfcare R/p @_indigogoddess_

[christelguillen]

How can I love myself better so that I have the ability and capacity to be kind to all people, especially those who need it most? I don't wish to be kind for some fairy tale running in daisies shit (this is how some people will interpret this 😒). Being kind to the unkind is efficient and effective. It's scientifically proven to have better results. It speeds up change. It is better for business. It reduces stress. Great for weight loss. Will bring you more and better sex. Will make you stronger. More resilient. More useful to society. More likely to live long and healthy. If you want to see yourself as a good person, it helps with that too. The trick to being kind to others, however, is that you can only be as kind to others as you are to yourself. And we can replace kind for "loving, caring, enjoyable to be around." This takes practice on a moment to moment frequency. It starts with letting go of the unkind thoughts and staying silent when those unkind thoughts want to turn into spoken unkind words. In these moments, I am no less damaging to the whole than any other person spreading toxic ideas. Especially if I'm saying something self deprecating about myself. Self hate is the most dangerous of all illnesses to humans and our survival. So, I'm going to continue to choose kindness. Sometimes I still choose petty or resentful, but far less these days. Almost never. 😉That's the goal, just do better. 🦋💜🖤#selflove #love #loveyourself #bekind #selfcareseries2018 (at Camden, New Jersey)

[christelguillen]

I'm loving this list. I have to "bounce back" about once a month. Usually following 2-3 days of being really tired and resting/creating/emoting. 🌒🌚#selflove #selfcareseries2018

[christelguillen]

Every single relationship we have is a direct mirror reflection of our own self-love, sense of value and self-worth, how much we enjoy ourselves, how much we respect ourselves. There are an infinite number of lessons and messages about yourself available for your awareness in your relationships. This includes relationships with things and ideas as well: food, music, our body, our beliefs, etc. When I started to analyze the nature of these relationships, and how they made me feel, I started making quick changes. I just didn't want to feel bad anymore. So I made some big, and always peaceful, decisions. I don't want to eat (most) animals any more. No longer interested in casual sex. No longer interested in friends that don't act like friends or family members that just don't know how to act. I have the same 3-5 people around me 90% of my life. It's far fewer than before so I save a lot of energy which can be used for manifesting. I feel like I'm being held by love and that's what God wants for us. And I know for sure that even though shit is still confusing sometimes (transitions are a roller coaster of emotions), I am well loved, by myself and my external world. 💜🙌🏾 #selflove #selfcareseries2018

[christelguillen]

I love when I do something in my head and then I see others do the same thing. 🤗It's proof to me of a collective consciousness. It's everywhere, this movement towards self-care and self-love. These are things we aren't explicitly taught in our culture and for some, not even by their parents. In these times, we are being called to look inwards and give love to the parts of us that are aching. If we can do this for ourselves, what we bring to our relationships is love without attachment. The best kind. So if doing it for yourself isn't motivation enough, imagine the kind of love that exists between two (or more) people who have nothing but wholeness to bring to the other. There is still space for a full range of emotions, but in the context of self-awareness. No blame. No projecting. This is self-love expressed cooperatively. 💜R/p @lost_nowhere #selflove #selfcareseries2018 (at Maryland)

[christelguillen]

😩🙌🏾These words are too good not to share. "We will learn to love one another, but whether we learn it painfully or peacefully is entirely up to us." 📚A Return to Love by @mariannewilliamson #storytime #learningtolove #selfcareseries2018 (at Washington, District of Columbia)

[christelguillen]

"Our internal state determines our experience of our lives; our experiences do not determine our internal state." 💜🙌🏾 Part of my Self-Care routine is taking time to read. The right books tend to find me at the right time. This one has been especially perfect for where I am in my life right now. #selfcareseries2018 (at Washington, District of Columbia)