so i used to be bad at starting conversations with new people because of general autistic reasons. one day though, i decided to give it a shot. here's my simple guide
who cares lol. talking to someone randomly is just like inherently funny imo, be happy
if you want to talk to someone in particular (and/or forgot their name), stare at them. when they see you, they'll be focused on you, and you can start talking easily
random icebreaker questions set a fun tone, let you come into a conversation easily, and i think actually give you a useful insight into what the person's like. pick one, or a few, and stick to them. my choice is 'what is your favourite colour / shape / number, and why?' because they're familiar to everyone but also not a question people are asked every day. this also works digitally, as all my superstans will know
ethos to remember: if we don't end up connecting, it doesn't matter what they think of me and so what i did in the conversation likewise does not matter (note: don't be an asshole, reader's discretion)
2nd ethos to remember: if they're not vibing with the fun aura you've established through the above tips, who cares? see rule 4
these tips have always worked for me. nobody's like 'wow i liked that person, but they didn't give me eye contact in the exact ways i expected so we won't talk again' don't even worry. use these tips with confidence for long enough and you will gain friends i promise
