How do you remember all your tags so consistently?
First off I just want to say, @serkestic, that I LOVE this ask right off the bat cuz irl I forget things C O N S T A N T L Y and the idea of me being known online for my memory is just... A Premium Tickle :p
With that out of the way, the majority of them I use on an fairly regular basis and, brains being evolved for language, that significantly helps. Then there's a class of lesser used ones(like my personal content tags, zA's Unseemly Shallowness, ect) that are peculiarly worded enough, and often Alliterative enough(as you may have noticed, I frigging LOVE alliteration), that they stand out in my memory, even though I only use them every few months or so.
BUT my dirty little secret is that I DO, in fact, frequently forget allot of them. However, I have two further secrets which help me with this: 1)I know myself and thus the ways I TEND to tag things and that, in combination with tumblr's tag-memory system(even IF it frequently FORGETS my tags *fume*) helps me to figure out many tags when I forget them, and 2)Because I so rigorously tag content, when I DO irretrievably forget a tag, I can look up synonymous or related tags with tumblr's blogsearch function and find the tag I'm looking for in my old posts :> :>
So, tl;dr: Part daily practice, part preferential memory/poetic mnemonics, part self-knowledge, and part Grinding Everyday Tagging Discipline. Hope that helps, Dear Reader ^v^ ^v^ ^v^
@eerna tagged me for that say nice things about people you follow so i’ll keep this to people ive gotten to know through noragami
@eerna of course to start. A+ and knows how to cheer ppl up like damn.. Ur messages make me smile ty ty. Fantastic art that is improving day by day so follow her for more art and noragami and like talk to her. yes. (I’ll send you mochi one day)
@yatono THIS MOLDY CHEESE PUFF… is great. V nice and fun to talk to. One of my fave noragami blogs and guess what i already started on ur bday present 🗿. It’s great doing the secret santa with u and have a good day (Its lovely talking to u. Tell ur cats i love them)
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@serkestic its been a while since ive mentioned her buT SERK … This nerd……….. We met through our noragami texting blogs by a kind anon.. close to two years ago now holy shit. Thank u @ anon who brought our attention to each other bc she is wonderful and wow we like a lot of the same things LMAO. (Go watch the ova serk)
And… I’m forgetting ppl again…… ughghgh BUT !! Great people I’ve met through noragami and enjoy talking to! Like i’ll get cheesy here and say it’s hard for me to talk to ppl and hold up convos and just open up in general but i’m glad i met these people who are super nice and helping me grow as a person (ugh that was so sappy but true…)
And yea since tumblr app is a mess just consider this a tag to talk about 5 ppl you’ve met!
(tw abuse) how do you think domestic abuse and abusive punishment works in the wizarding world? from the weasleys, we know that they do corporal punishment (arthur spanked fred when he tried to do the unbreakable vow with ron) but is it possible that some wizarding families use magic to punish their children/abuse their partners mirroring the "muggle/non-magic" versions of domestic abuse?
SORRY I WENT TO A SELF DEFENSE SEMINAR TODAY AND THEN THOUGHTS HAPPENED don’t reply if you’re uncomfortable with the topic
Nah, its ok. I’m gonna answer this in a kind of rambling fashion, as I build toward my main point. This is long, and also discusses some heavy topics and unpleasant things, so it’s going beneath a cut. If anyone has stuff to add to this feel free to reblog with more thoughts.
See, in my family (I’m UK based) we did have physical punishment but only ever as “You have crossed a line”. As a “Your behaviour was unacceptable on every level” punishment. It meant that we knew we had gone far, far, far too far, and we behaved afterwards because we knew that there were the usual punishments - sitting on the stairs, extra chores, no pocket money, not allowed on trips, or to have pudding - and then there was a smack, when we had gone beyond the even vaguely understandable. Given an Unbreakable Vow can result in the death of the one who breaks it, Fred and George did exactly that - they went beyond the even vaguely reasonable, or understandable, and were physically punished so that they understood the severity of what they had tried to do. It’s a cruel punishment. It’s one which may be termed abusive. But given that it’s marked by Ron as unusual, esp. with what we see of the Weasley family, it suggests to me that it was the only punishment they could think to give at the time. The only suitable and appropriate way of expressing the severity of what was done, after the shock that the twins had attempted it.
So there you are with that. I don’t think it would be that common. I think it would be more likely there would be charms to force children to stay within a certain proximity to each other to force them to get along (think a get-along shirt). I think families like the Weasley’s, which don’t have house elves, would assign additional chores, or find other, similar means to discipline children most of the time, and that physical punishment would be a rarity, used when what the child has done is so far beyond reason or sense that going so completely Bursar on them might be the only way to impress upon them the severity of what they had done/tried to do/almost done. This would probably be somewhat more common in the magical world than in our mundane one, as the magical world has some extreme punishments - Azkaban and the Dementor’s Kiss are both far worse than anything we muggles could use as a punishment, so I think there would be a risk of some parents going overboard in trying to impress upon their children the importance of obeying the law, which could, yes, lead to abusive treatment of their children, but I imagine - given accidental magic - there would also be a certain degree of restraint. No parent would want to incite their child’s uncontrolled magic against them, and no parent is particularly likely to actually want to do their child harm. So with the use of physical punishment I think there’d be an interesting balance of the punishment but also of restraint.
Regarding domestic abuse however, I think there are many ways that could go. The existence of Unbreakable Vows presents a vast amount of opportunity for abuse, especially given the trust many children give their parents, and besides that we have Neville’s situation - abused by his family members in the hope of making him express magic. While the use of physical punishment might be not uncommon, but still restrained and used as a last resort punishment, there would still be the abuse of individuals to drive them to express magic. This might be especially noticeable in the cases of Pureblood families which value magic and have already lost much - for example, the Malfoys would not do it, having not lost so much, while the Longbottoms might - and indeed did - as they had lost Frank and Alice.
That all said, when a magical child hits eleven they go to Hogwarts for most of the year, which, while it would not treat the abuse, would remove them from the abusive environment - we see Neville gain confidence while at Hogwarts, especially under Harry’s tutelage and his forging in fire in his last year, eventually become an incredible young man. We see Harry love Hogwarts as his safe space, and how he relaxes there once away from the Dursleys. We even see it to a degree in Tom and in Snape, though they both choose to continue the cycle of abuse which began with their early bullying, and act as counterpoints to Harry and Neville’s healing narrative arcs. But we’re not here for the litcrit, we’re here for the analysis of abuse.
Its a true and troubling fact that not all children would escape the situations they may be in - Squibs we know are not treated well and in the magical world would likely remain under their family’s purview until they come of age at 17. There may be ways of dealing with this; there could be Squib Integration courses to help them get into the muggle world, and I imagine some families - in my headcanon the Black family - may well give up Squib children to muggle Children’s Homes. Then again, in the older years and more strictly pureblood families, they may have killed the child, and passed it off as an “accident”. We may well never know the true treatment of squibs in that regard, but I do not doubt they faced some of the worst of any abuse in the magical world, alongside werewolf children.
Besides the physical abuse of children, it is also worth noting neglectful treatment (as I imagine many squibs would have been treated) and - as you mentioned - spousal abuse in the magical world, both of which I think must have existed in some form or another. Neglect most particularly in the case of squibs, but in a way also to werewolf children - we know that nothing was done to try to give Remus a comfortable time at Full Moons when he was at home: he was locked up in a spelled and barricaded room, and left until morning. It’s not the same as the likely constant neglect received by some squibs, but its a distinct kind of neglectful abuse of its own.
As to spousal abuse, with the existence of uneven and “indifferent” marriages (see Merope Gaunt and Tom Riddle Sr. as well as Bellatrix Black and Rodolphus Lestrange) and the existence of love potions, the Imperius Curse, the Cruciatus, Unbreakable Vows and a myriad other means, the power of one spouse over another could easily go beyond a natural and expected dynamic which could be amended or simply develop and change naturally, to an out-rightly abusive one. For example, there’s an unevenness to Ron and Hermione’s dynamic, simply because they are such different people, but they constantly find ways to balance it with their debates and arguments (THIS is a great meta on that), while in the case of Bellatrix and Rodolphus neither are invested in the marriage, and in the case of Merope and Tom Sr. she has outright enslaved him with a love potion.
So. All in all.
There is abuse in the magical world. The Dursley’s treatment of Harry is mirrored, in various ways, the treatment of some individuals in the magical world. A big point in JKRs writing is that yes the magical world is magical, but that doesn’t make it wonderful. It’s as complex and flawed as our own, and that means while it can have so much greatness, it can have so much sadness and so much evil too.
It’s not just possible for some wixes to punish their children or abuse their partners in ways we in the mundane world would condemn - it does happen already, it’s mentioned, firmly, in canon. Merope Gaunt’s love potion - hell Romilda’s attempt to use one on Harry could be counted - show that happens, and the punishment of Fred, the neglect-abuse of Neville and of Merope, all show that it does happen as well. With magic around and about I wouldn’t doubt that it would get dragged in and involved even more than it does with love potions. How many children do you think are bound to their families with Unbreakable Vows if their parents have control issues? How many under Imperius or Confundus, or with memories Obliviated to make them more malleable? There is plenty - and I mean plenty - of opportunity for abuse, and we do already know it happens, in multiple forms.
