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Here's tip from us in Room Privée: The art of seduction is knowing what she really wants and slowly give it to her in a way that takes her breath away 💜🌹

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Let's not forget, that your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have! So let's practice some genuine self-love 💜😊

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You have most certainly heard about tantra and been curious about what it really entails. We’re quite sure you have even been thinking about trying it or at least wanted to know more. But where to start? To help you avoid hours and hours of Google search, we here at Room Privée in Sydney, Australia, put together a beginner’s guide that will help you better understand what tantra is and how to start. Tantra, and everything surrounding it, is an extremely extensive subject which has been covered in hundreds (or even thousands) of books and scriptures for millenniums. We’re not going to the extremes here and will just simplify it with these five fundamentals.  

What is tantra? To make this a serious blog post, we have this one paragraph of history. Some scholars argue that the earliest form of tantra started in the Indus Valley (which is in north-western India and Pakistan) and Tibet between 3000 and 5000 years ago. This should be excellent news for you, to learn that people have been doing dirty deeds for thousands of years. You’re not alone! Anyway, the story says that tantra formed as a protest against religion, which claimed that in order to achieve enlightenment, sexuality should be rejected. We here at Room Privée translate that as f*****g for freedom!

What are practitioners seeking? Basically, tantra seeks to expand the consciousness of the human being and connect it to the spiritual world. Contrary to popular belief, tantric sex has more to do with a mental approach rather than a specific technique. However, most people perceive it only as a practice in which the sexual act can last for hours and hours.

How tantric sex different from conventional sex? What “conventional sex” mean is sex where the main objective is an orgasm, but tantric sex leaves ejaculation somehow in the background of all this magnificent act. Tantric sex is a journey where the aim is not orgasm, but to enjoy the journey itself.

To practice tantric sex, you will definitely need a patient partner who is on the same wavelength as you, since physical contact is extreme but the whole purpose is to fully experience each sensation through mutual caresses and massages.

So, let’s jump into the five fundamentals for tantra beginners:

1. The environment Since tantric sex is a different experience than you usually have, prepare the environment by creating a super nice and special atmosphere; dim the lights, keep the temperature perfect (i.e. not too cold or too hot), relaxing music, scented candle, or whatever makes you comfortable. The goal is that all senses are active and stimulated.

2. The importance of breathing Good breathing is one of the keys to tantric sex. Sit naked in front of each other, look each other in the eye, and breathe slowly until your breathing synchronises.

3. The importance of feeling Start by kissing your partner gently and slowly increase the intensity. Complement the kisses with caresses and massages and remember not to rush it. Use massage oil as it helps stimulate the senses of touch and smell and intensifies the pleasure and sensation throughout the body. At first, do not touch the genitals. Concentrate on the moment, enjoy the sensations of pleasure without worrying about what comes next.

4. Penetration Remember that the penetration is just another step, but not a goal. The man has to learn how to master the rhythm during penetration, and if you’re super excited just rest a little bit and breath slowly. If orgasm is approaching fast, stop moving to avoid ejaculation or take it out and squeeze the head gently.  Some readers might notice that this is more of a concern for the man. We girls can of course go on forever, so just imagine tantric sex between two women.

5. Ecstasy After few hours of caresses and massages, you will be at a point of major thrill that will make your bodies feel like one. When you finally have orgasm, you will feel immense pleasure from the top of your head to the toes. It truly is unlike anything you have experienced.

It’s not easy to reach maximum duration when you first start experimenting with tantric sex. But do not give up, because like anything in life, you will evolve with practice. Although Malcolm Gladwell explains in Outliers that it takes 10.000 hours to make you the best, we think you can get pretty good with far less hours than that.

Just remember that breathing, concentration and patience are the fundamentals for achieving optimal results.

Namaste!

Originally published by Room Privée: Five Fundamentals to Take Your First Steps in Tantric Sex

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8 Reasons Why You Should Masturbate More

There are so many reasons why masturbating is good for you, so we here at the Room Privée offices in Sydney have selected 8 reasons for you to do more of it. Much more!

1. It helps you to know yourself better Masturbation is an adventure that helps you know yourself better, and a great way to explore your body and sexuality. Create your own journey of pleasures around your hottest erogenous zones, rhythm, breath, and your most intimate fantasies, and games.

2. It is an adventure towards sexual freedom You can be completely without fear of doing anything right or wrong, without any limits of time and space, without any complexes or taboos of any kind, as masturbating gives you the freedom to feel pleasure in its deepest dimension. You can be without fear of crossing the lines of obsolete beliefs of past generations and simply let yourself be carried away by your natural sexual instinct. Masturbation brings you complete freedom!

3. It strengthens your immune system Masturbations makes you healthier. Seriously! A study at the Essen University in Germany found that masturbating increases the circulation of lymphocytes and the production of cytokines, cells that fight diseases, and consequently strengthen your immune system. Gloria Barme, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist stressed this point and said that it’s even healthier than brushing your teeth every day. We at Room Privée recommend brushing teeth AND masturbating. Not at the same time thought. Or maybe…

4. Relaxing, reduces stress, and improves sleep By masturbating you release endorphins, your nervous system relaxes, you burn a bit of energy, and you become pleasantly calm. All that together reduces stress and can lower blood pressure and, if you do it at night it can seriously help you fall asleep.  

5. Increases your ability to reach an orgasm By getting to know your body more, you will start understanding better what your erogenous zones are and how to touch yourself and stimulate those hot spots. Furthermore, you will learn better what you like and how you like your solo play, not only at the physical level but also mentally.

The more you learn about yourself, the more pleasure you will be able to achieve during sex with your lover. You will seriously improve your ability to reach powerful orgasm. So, masturbation can seriously improve your sex life.

6. Strengthens and tones the pelvic floor muscles (women only … obviously) It’s just like any other workout, without the sweat and pain of course. Women do not only masturbate for the reasons we’ve talked about here above, but also to strengthen the kegel muscles. This is something you can do with “Kegel Balls” (sometimes called “Chinese Balls” or “Ben Wa Balls”). The results of using Kegel Balls are extremely positive for most women as it can help combat vaginismus and urinary incontinence, and it strengthens your kegel muscles. By tightening your pelvic muscles, the greater your ability to reach powerful orgasms and enhanced sensations. Click here to see a good Kegel ball set to start: Bettersex Kegel Toner Balls Set.

7. There’s always a surprise Not all orgasms you get are the same, nor is there only one type of stimulation that gives you pleasure. This can vary much as some are more intense and some have completely different sensation. Therefore, every time you masturbate you can enjoy different intensity and completely different orgasms. Experiment with sex toys, lubricants, and positions. Simply allow yourself to experiment with different types of masturbation and keep enjoying yourself. This vibrator here, for example, has a suction mechanism that stimulates the clitoris intensely as well as giving powerful internal vibrations, a combination that gives us amazing thrills. Click here fore more information. Remember, self-love is the best love.

8. It makes us feel good and therefore it makes us happy Happy is good! Happy people live longer. And if you live longer you can masturbate more. And if you masturbate more you’ll be more happy. And live longer. And … basically, if you masturbate you can become 120 years old. Not bad at all.

Emily Smith, MRes Sydney, Australia

Originally published by Room Privée: 8 Reasons Why You Should Masturbate More

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There are those who measure a man's sexual performance based on the quality of his erection. But what happens if the erection goes away too soon? Has it been a total failure? 🧐

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The problem is that we have been taught that penetration is the most important thing in a sexual relationship, but they couldn’t be more wrong 😋

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So... in case this happens to you, the first thing is to make sure that your partner is relaxed. Start kissing and playing again, try a massage with some oil, enjoy oral sex, and if none this works is not the end of the world. You can always find some fun toys in our website! 😉